Majority of friends, are fake.

Fake people attract only fake friends. None of them are in it for the the true nature of friendship. They just want to look cool.

There are two questions that pop in our head…

Who is fake? Why do people fake?

Most do so because they are either embarrassed by their true self or they want to look cool and join a group that have the fake “cool" ideals.

For example when you join a new school you tend to want to join a group that fits your beliefs or if you don't find any you make changes to your beliefs/ personality to fit into that groups category (ideals)). This is the point where people become fake without realising.

Being fake is cool. But you must always act and be really plastic to people outside the house. But in the longer run it is a recoil.

Fakeness is a result of movies and other social media influence. People want to impersonate and live the character. But we know it is not reality.

Now let's understand friendship.

What is friendship??

Friendship is when the person knows both your positives and negatives rather than only the good side. This is where social media lacks. We see only the good sides.

So I would strongly suggest to be yourself rather that pleasing yourself by pleasing others. And getting carried away to their fake world.

They can't help anyone in need .They think only of their selfish motives. They are only a show off. They do not like to involve when others are in difficulty.

So they are a crowd of people whom we assume to be friends. It is a group of selfish people. They just pass time. On the contrary the real people have true friends.

True friendship is rare. They are a few people who are true friends. These are always to stand for you during your difficulty. They help you in all the problems they face.

The fake people are not bothered of anyone. So you feel they have many friends from external appearance.

Do you prefer no friends or fake friends?

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Thank you?... I prefer no friends at all. For 2 years I have been around people who don’t care about anything I do so any time I talk to them I feel like I’m wasting my time.

They don’t tell me when they are about to do something together, their responses to even the most thought provoking things i say are dull and they are never worried about me.

They don’t ask me if I’m depressed or something else when I’m not around them, because they don’t really care. They let me be in the group, but don’t seem to want to do anything with me. That’s what’s called a false friendship.

Well from my experience, it comes from being alone, living alone & doing everything ALONE! People pick up on that, and figure if they stick around, they can use & humiliate you, sometimes to make themselves feel better.

At least, that has been my experience. Just be careful & cautious about who you allow in your life. Be respectful to people. But also know, you are in no way obligated to keep fake friends in your life!

Like most questions, this one needs more context.

I can think of two reasons.

You have a bad picker.

You don’t have a good bullshit detector.

Okay so what do I mean?

First, you are probably young and so you aren’t exactly sure what type of people you actually like being with. That’s fine. That’s how most people start out. Then eventually you get into so many relationships and friendships that you have a good handle on what you like in people and what you dislike in people.

Do you want to add a word or two?....?

In order to not attract fake friends you first need a set of values that you stand by.

What are absolute deal-breakers for you in people?

No drugs?

Not a bum?

What are absolute necessities?

Always there for each other?

Honesty?

Really funny?

What kind of things do you like that you’d like your friends to like?

Basketball?

Videogames?

How about rock climbing or board games?

Your comments ….

Get super-specific about all of these things. I’m serious when I say write them down. Then, whenever you see someone that matches these qualifications, go towards them and commit to them fully. Show them how good a friend you are.

Number 2 is that bullshit detector.

The older you get, the better my Bullshit Detector has gotten. And I’m strict about no bullshit in my life. So if one of my friends bullshits me, I cut them out immediately.

I listen closely to what my friends say and see if they align with who they actually are. I also watch to see if they ever lie to me. If they do lie, I cut them out immediately.

That’s not to say I am always a skeptic, or I am waiting for them to lie. Never. I am actually the opposite. I hold my friends to the highest standards, as that is the respectful thing to do. Therefore, it is quite easy to then spot when it’s bullshit time.

So, my guess is you do the opposite of these two things. My guess is you don’t realize it, but you pick shitty people to be friends with you—and then you are naive to see when they shit on you or other people. Eventually, it comes back to bite you in the tushy.

That’s how it used to happen to me. But then I got strict about who I have in my life. And now I only have really, really good people in my life.

One thought I had is: where are you meeting your friends?

You can meet friends anywhere, but people can be different people in different places, at least it can seem that way. I have tended to meet my best friends at library and while I was still going to school.

People I met there had similar interest to me and also seemed to want to improve themselves educationally and spiritually. In my experience, people who generally want to improve themselves are going to pretend to be something they’re not i.e. fake.

Also, how quickly are you making friends? For better or worse, having a good friendship takes a long time.

Are you investing all your time in new friends who you really don’t know all that well?

?If you take the time to really get to know someone and who they are in the beginning, it’ll probably save you from trouble later on.

It could be that you need to get acquainted with the "real you, your authentic self."

By fake friends I interpret this to mean superficial friends who may have glamorous attributes, but maybe not a lot of interest or capacity to be an in depth friend.

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