This is the main reason why most people don't reprogram their mindset effectively...

I practice Inner Child Healing.

Reprogramming the mind is not so easy as most people say it is.

I have been practicing and working with Inner Child Healing for over 12 years.

But what I have seen is that most people are not getting results as they would like to.

So many people out there think that by doing affirmation they can reprogram their subconscious mind.

For most people, it doesn't work.

Others teach to write the old story, break it, toss it away, burn it, and by writing the new story, boom, reprogramming happens.

Again, for most, it doesn't work.

Many push you to deny that thought "It's not you..." "That is a lie/false" and create a new thought...

Again, doesn't work for most.

So why is it that most people don't see changes with these techniques? ???

Why is it that so many people keep following these and "resonate" with them????

Because it has to do with our childhood.

Most of us have been exposed to some kind of authoritarian parenting.

"Eat all your food" "Study..." "Behave"...

We didn't have much power of decisions as kids, we were told what to do.

That creates self-doubt, low confidence, and low self-esteem.

Doesn't this sound familiar?

Yes, most people struggle with this.

Most don't want to accept it.

So when you deny, burn, toss a false or negative belief, that is a kind of authoritarianism.

You are not understanding and accepting that there is a part of you that feels like that.

I don't mean accepting as giving up, I mean as a stepping stone to make the change.

Let me give you a perfect example, that happened to me some days ago.

My 6-year-old kid came to me and said: "Dad, I am ugly"

Authoritarian response: "Don't say that... that is not true, you are beautiful".

Does this seem the automatic response most people have, deny a thought or emotion????

As I am someone he looks up to, he would have denied and repressed that belief, and pretend it never happened.

This is not reprogramming, although it might seem, it is just repression.

This creates a belief in his head that his thoughts are wrong, and he needs someone to tell him what to feel and think.

Hence, self-doubt, low confidence, and low self-esteem, what most people struggle with.

Instead... look what I did.

I said: "Ok, why do you feel ugly?"

Kid: "I don't like my face"

Me: "What don't you like of your face?"

Kid: "My eyes"

Me: "Why don't you like your eyes"

Kid: "Because they have a different color than my brother"

He had created a negative belief around being ugly because his eyes were different from his brothers.

So I listened, understood, and accepted what he was saying.

I NEVER denied or repressed it.

I asked him about my color of eyes, that by the way, are the same as his.

So I asked him if my eyes were ugly, to which he said no.

Then I said: "If your eyes are very similar to mine, and my eyes are not ugly... are your eyes ugly?"

And he said no.

So I explained to him that our uniqueness makes us special, that people are different...

He smiled and walked away.

THAT IS REPROGRAMMING....

Identify, accept, understand and learn from a belief...

Denial and repression will only feel ok for a little while, but the problem will not go away.

If you really want to reprogram you need to change the way you do it.

Love that part of you, accept it, learn from it, and then re-educate it.

That is reprogramming.

Re-educating / changing the perception in a loving way.

Let me know if this makes sense.

Tommy - The Mind Engineer