Lucid Intervals....Looking at Self

I am present, I know not tomorrow. The truth is today. I accept it in all lucidity - Vani Aryan

Lucid moments provoke lucid thoughts- Vani Aryan

We live in an age where we hold on to our phones more than anything. We dare to put it down as the flow of communication or information is in real time. We are expected or at least we feel the need to be informed else we are looked at as so not in sync with the rest of the world! We aspire to be the best, what we call as success which has no measurable value. We want to compete with just about anyone and everyone, whereas comparison is an illustration of similitude they have to be likened. But we seem to race with anyone who has more than us. We have not yet seen people marrying for competition, the number of times I mean… while that would be totally outrageous, the thought is hilarious to say the least. Our life is in perpetual motion without regard to direction nor enjoy the scenes that we pass. We miss the whole point in the art of living. … Which is, living in the moment, we are the artist, life is a canvas we paint as we go along...

We talk about balanced life. We include only two components work and personal life. Is that all there is to life? Life between home and work. We do talk about healthy lifestyle. So eating a salad, working out, seemingly fit mostly likely wanting to fit into a certain size clothing is balanced life? Then how come we are still looking for happiness, which is ridiculous in itself as it has nothing to do with the outside variables. What about the spiritual, emotional, relationships, mental health which completes us as a humane...We can never have a balanced life if we do not take into consideration all these aspects of one’s life.

People talk about goals only in relation to job or career. It is important to set goals for a balanced life. What’s the point of having a string of goals that you reach in your career or job while your health, relationships and peace are not in sync? If your health is failing, marriage is falling apart, your kid(s) don’t know you… they only know of you? One gets a promotions in life and returns to a home that is not greeting you. Oh yes, the spouse may greet you and may be happy at the increase in the monitory part and the social standing upgrade of it  already planning to spend it without as much consulting you. The kids will be assured they will inherit more than they deserve which is like giving the key to premature servitude to incapacity. What is the point of having the capacity to buy the latest well equipped smooth car but you are too stressed out to enjoy the ride as your thoughts are turmoil either on work or on compelling family issue. What is the point in taking a vacation in a solitude place but your mind is whirling without letting up to have peace of mind.

What we are lacking is the Lucid Intervals in our lives. We take life too seriously. We live in a quagmire of thoughts that we don’t allow to let go. We wound ourselves into a thread ball so tight and so meshed we have to cut to break it and then those threads are of no use. They are gone. They are fragile. We lose on relationships and connections that are so fragile. Where I come from they say, “don’t stretch till it breaks!”

Somethings need tugging, we yank it. We are all afraid of failing. That was me once…. Not anymore. I was not attempting anything for the fear of failure, so I sat myself one day and asked myself, “What is the worst thing that can happen if I fail?’ The answer was already there. I may fail… I laughed at myself because I may fail I know, but then If I attempt I may pass. The odds are even. Since then I gave every major test I needed and even went back to school, topped my class of 20 years old kids!! One need that lucidity in thoughts once in a while to sit oneself. You will not be mending a relationship that has gone way too far or which is toxic for you or people involved but you will walk away peacefully if you let off the feeling of guilt, anger or grief.

We need to take life as is, make a few mistakes, get low grade in a paper or credit rating, fall in love, fight with a friend or spouse…let go of emotions by expressing in a healthy way. Don’t stop relating to people because you failed a few time.  Indulge in things but always limit the portion size so you never get addicted to it. Just don’t be slave to an idea, thought or habit. One should be able to walk in and walk out of any situation without war scars, meaning unscathed, only the lessons learned and ready to impart to those who listen and never feel slighted if someone rejects your idea(s). Life should be lived like a water drop on a lotus leaf, the water drop can stay still yet slide away without getting affected. We should be attached to life enough to live but detached not to get hurt. Everything other than death and taxes… ask some tax attorneys and they may find a way to get you out of it…*Smiling* is not permanent nor written in stone. You just have to try, you may start a chapter and change someone’s life.

As for Spiritual life, it isn’t something that is outside or some magical place in the universe with some mystic powers. It is part of the mind that focuses on self-health, a path that you take on your own cognizance to find out more about yourself in relation to the universe. So don’t end up asking some so called spiritual teacher to lead you. It’s a relation between you and the universe, no middle men here. No shepherd(s), just you and the pasture all wide open. Afraid of getting lost? So be it! Find your way at your leisure.

In the end remember we are human and not some device that has a manual and all you have to do is punch is a few buttons and viola!! reset and do what is expected of us versus what is supposed to be like.

“Truly elegant life should be noticed while you are not aware of it” - Vani Aryan

Sincerely,

Vani Minerva Aryan