Love Yourself.

14th February. 

St. Valentine's Day.

Do you love it, or hate it...?

I got talking about it with one of my coaching clients recently. She told me how she remembers every single Valentine's Day from her high school days. Sitting in home class, as the teacher checked the register and got them all ready for the day ahead. 

No-one ever paid attention to the teacher on Valentine's Day though. 

The energy in the room was always full of hope and expectation, as they waited for the door to open and one of the students to do the annual Valentine's Day Rose delivery.

She explained that, if you were lucky, you were the recipient of at least one rose - maybe from your current beau, maybe from an anonymous admirer. 

Of course there was always the cool, popular girls and boys. She'd see them walking the corridors during the day, arms laden with roses and cards. 

And then there was the majority of the school - roseless and loveless - willing the day to end so they could rush home to check the mail in the hope that maybe, just maybe, their Valentine's crush would have worked out where they lived and sent a card or gift the old fashioned way.

We laughed about it, then talked about how I had exactly the same memories! We mused over the fact the things that mattered then don't matter so much now, if at all. We recalled how fragile our egos were. How reliant we were on the admiration and love of others. 

My client told me that now she couldn't give two hoots about Valentine's Day and material displays of love.

Does she still want the admiration and love of others? Yes of course! 

But, most importantly, she wants the admiration and love of one particular person. 

She wants to look in the mirror and know that she deserves her own love. 

She knows there are things she needs to do in her life to truly love and value herself.

• She needs to look after her health and fitness
• She needs to spend quality time with friends and family
• She has to do her best work - be challenged and engaged every day

But, no matter what she doesn't do, or what she doesn't get right... 

SHE KNOWS SHE IS ENOUGH 

Just like the song below from the wonderful movie "The Greatest Showman", she understands that the secret to a life filled with love is being able to look in the mirror every day and say "This is Me". 

I hope that whether or not you get roses today, you take time out to watch the video below, turn the volume up high and celebrate that today, and every day YOU ARE ENOUGH.

Fiona

I help people and organisations Build Brilliance. I love advising on building personal brand and strong networks. I have a passion for helping people and businesses be Brilliant Business Developers.

I founded SmartWomen Connect to help professional women employed by or working with corporate or professional services build a strong, resilient network to support them in their career and to help them build business. 

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