Love and Wounds!

“If You Weren’t Fed Love with a Spoon, You’ll Learn to Lick It Off Knives!”

Love should be gentle, nourishing, and freely given. Ideally, it’s something we receive effortlessly, offered in warm doses of kindness, safety, and belonging. But not everyone gets that. Some of us grew up in homes where love was conditional, inconsistent, or tangled with pain.

When love isn’t given freely, we learn to chase it, fight for it, or accept it in its most painful forms.

I read this phrase last week “If you weren’t fed love with a spoon, you’ll learn to lick it off knives” reflects how we adapt when love is scarce. We settle for sharp edges, mistaking struggle for connection, and believing love must always come at a cost.

Love is a basic human need, just like food and water. When it’s missing, we don’t stop needing it, we just look for it in the wrong places.

This often leads to:

• Tolerating toxic relationships – Staying in painful, inconsistent, or manipulative situations because they feel familiar.
• Overgiving and people-pleasing – Trying to prove our worth by doing too much, hoping love will finally feel secure.
• Mistaking chaos for connection – Associating instability and emotional rollercoasters with passion.
• Doubting our worth – Feeling like we must earn love through suffering or sacrifice.

If you weren’t fed love with spoon and keep licking it off knives, you don’t have to keep bleeding. Love isn’t meant to be painful. You can unlearn survival love and step into something softer, healthier, and true.

1. Recognize the Pattern Awareness is key. Acknowledge where you’ve sought love in places that require you to endure pain.
2. Rewire Your Definition of Love Love should feel safe. It should not require you to prove your worth. Surround yourself with people who love consistently, without conditions.
3. Heal Your Inner Child The part of you that learned to survive on painful love is still inside, longing for warmth. Speak to yourself with the kindness you deserved back then. Give yourself the love you lacked.
4. Set New Standards Raise the bar. You don’t have to settle for love that drains you. Say no to relationships that make you feel small, unworthy, or uncertain.
5. Choose Self-Love First When you love yourself deeply, you stop searching for love in places that hurt you. When you feed yourself with self-compassion and care, you won’t feel starved for love from people who can’t offer it properly.

Healing from survival love isn’t easy, but it is worth it. Love is meant to be soft. You are worthy of love that feels safe, abundant, and free. If no one has given it to you yet, start by giving it to yourself.

And here’s the truth: The love you truly deserve has always been within you. It’s been waiting for you to turn inward, to recognize your own worth, and to choose yourself. You are no longer that child searching for scraps of love; you are the one who can nourish yourself now. So, put down the knives. Walk away from the pain. And step into a love that no longer wounds you, but instead, finally makes you whole.

Because love should never taste like blood.

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Happy February! It's the month of Love, Let's be Love, Let's spread it!

Love

Lydia