Love Sickness , Broken heart --Do these Kill , Is this disease at par with depression or even more dangerous

A stabbing pain in your heart. Depression. Uncontrollable crying.

These are all symptoms of a paralyzing illness that indiscriminately affects people all around the world — it’s called love sickness.

Love sickness can kill and should be taken more seriously as a legitimate diagnosis, according to health experts.

Relationships deeply affect and impact the status of our health . It all brings us back to that raw emotion of a pulsating heartbeat, sweaty palms and butterflies flowing throughout one’s stomach that spells out L-O-V-E. Oh yes, love is in the air What comes to mind when you think of love? Is it attraction, lust, marriage or seeing a baby in a baby carriage? Whatever it is , bear in mind that it is beautiful while it lasts and deadly when it fails or break ups occur

I am going to look at what happens when this love becomes unrequited , when breakups occur or when one of the partners moves on.

Frank Tallis, a clinical psychologist in London, is among those calling for greater awareness of the "illness" in a report in The Psychologist magazine. He said many are "destabilized by falling in love, or suffer on account of their love being unrequited" and this could lead to a suicide attempt.

Few studies deal with the "specific problem of love sickness", he said. In extreme cases love sickness could drive people to take their own life, he added.

Dr Tallis said that before the 18th Century love sickness had been accepted as a natural state of mind for thousands of years. He said in modern day terms the symptoms can include mania, such as an elevated mood and inflated self-esteem, or depression, revealing itself as tearfulness and insomnia.

Aspects of obsessive compulsive disorder can also be found in those experiencing love sickness, such as preoccupation and obsessively checking for text messages and e-mails. 

The World Health Organization (WHO), recently put love on their official list of serious diseases. An international medical code of F 63.9 represents love as an official disease! Accordingly to the WHO, people in love are considered as having a psychological problem, right after the alcoholics, maniacs-arsonists, gamblers, drug-dependents and others of the kind. 

The symptoms include:

• Mood swings
• Sleeping problems
• Headaches
• Unhealthy swings in blood pressure
• Allergic reactions
• Depression
• Panic attacks
• Anxieties
• Lack of energy
• Abnormal heart rhythms
• Sweating
• Impaired brain functions,
• Incoherent speech patterns
• Clammy hands and dry mouth
• Preoccupation
• Loss of appetite
• Stuttering

It’s possible that someone could be a Gold Digger  in the emotional sense of love pathologically. The person who seeks love in order to obtain security will become similar to the alcoholic; increasingly dependent on this source of illusory well-being. This is typical behavior for obsessive-compulsive disorders, but considered by many as a not well-understood neuro-physiological phenomena.

It takes anywhere between 2 to 4 minutes to decide if you are attracted to someone, as your eye pupils dilate , maybe there is such a thing as love at first sight. 

Do you realize how powerful a bond between two people can become when you mix a hormonal cocktail. It is explosive . There are no words to describe the flames that ignite when intimacy takes place. Entering the story at this point is the release of Serotonin hormone, which will keep any man actively consumed with thoughts about his mate. And the Oxytocin hormone which can make any woman become addicted to her mate.

Love is the most confusing feeling to experience and the reason why many say that love is blind. It beats all understanding, including the philosopher’s logic. Most medical personnel agree that love is a serious disease. It feels bad when love is unrequited. This breeds low self-esteem and an un-explainable level of panic. Hopelessness soon takes its toll and things can get even worse. Love makes everything seem to revolve around their lover and life loses its worth if the lover does not reciprocate. Many associate the beauty of life with the ability to love and being loved. Love sickness does not necessary come from unequal dispensation of affection. Even when two lovers are deeply in love sometimes the situations remains the same. 

Love impairs the level of thinking. Making decisions become so hard since the mind is mostly preoccupied by the other person. This is what we usually call being madly in love. Love sickness causes the victim to think with the heart rather than the mind. Rational thinking is no longer important. Women love married men and men leave their families. Do not feel like an idiot for doing all the wrong things. It is called “love sickness”. Love has a way of bringing obsession with it and it simply doesn’t ask why. It is actually possible to reach a state of hopelessness. You are desperately awaiting e-mails and text messages. If the expectations are not met, the heart is broken.

Nothing is more painful than a broken heart. This is love sickness at its best. Insomnia, emotional eating, mania and inflated self-esteem are all signs of love sickness. People who are in love tend to change their moods quicker than woman change their shoes, with no apparent reason at all. Ten minutes lateness or a missed call is enough reason to cause restlessness and depression. If you ask me, love sickness is the most dangerous condition and doctors should start taking its diagnosis seriously. A love smitten person can easily take away his/her life. We have heard of enough stories where lovers murder one another and committed suicide; in a crime of passion with a homicide/suicide. These instances are caused by a destabilized state of mind caused by falling in love. Interestingly, it tends to be the people who surround a couple who can recognize obvious red flags, warnings or danger-danger signs before the individuals in a relationship can see it. It has been said that “it is hard to see the big picture, when you are in the frame!”

Engaging causally in sexual activity is socially accepted with music, movies magazines and the internet that everyone is exposed to this type of interaction. Meanwhile, society creates various terms as friends with benefits along with hooking up, smacking that, hitting this to the sound of sexting.  

Sometimes the unofficial “honeymoon phase” strikes faster than a hurricane; but does it last long & strong. Strangers don’t have much time to become acquainted and may fail to detect a player or heart breaker during the process. 

Did you know that it takes approximately 7 years to really fall in love with someone . Strange isnt it , I guess marriages and relationships start falling apart before this 7 year period is completed. I always call the first two years as the honeymoon period , followed by adjustment and finally the long term commitment. It takes time , energy and efforts to keep the emotional bonding alive.

Taking short cuts with relationships; while playing house too early, can provide drama, complications and love sickness. Why would a person lack sleep and drown in tears over another person? Many wonder and swear that they can never cry over a human being, but love beats even the strongest of hearts and reduces someone to feel like no one. The emotions and thoughts of a person’s behavior change, can become erratic. The intense feelings inflate the moods. Increased mood swings, can range from one end of the spectrum of excitement to an extreme side of sleepless depression. If the insomnia is not arrested, this can be harmful to the body. Exhaustion sets in. Love can easily kill in this slow fashion. A stressed lover can develop high blood pressure, cancer and other complications. Love sickness drives her/him slowly to a grave.

Almost all humans suffer from love sickness one or more times in their lives. Although typically harmless it can lead some personalities to serious physical/mental illness, suicide or possibly even death. 

In psychology, it’s very seldom for love sickness to be acknowledged. 

I will end this blog with a beautiful song by Rixton --Me and My Broken Heart

Me And My Broken Heart

All I need is a little love in my life

All I need is a little love in the dark

A little but I'm hoping it might kick start

Me and my broken heart

I need a little loving tonight

Hold me so I'm not falling apart

A little but I'm hoping it might kick start

Me and my broken heart

Yeah

Shotgun, aimed at my heart, you got one

Tear me apart in this song

How do we call this love

I tried, to run away but your eyes

Tell me to stay oh why

Why do we call this love

It seems like we've been losing control

So bad it don't mean I'm not alone

When I say

All I need is a little love in my life

All I need is a little love in the dark

A little but I'm hoping it might kick start

Me and my broken heart

I need a little loving tonight

Hold me so I'm not falling apart

A little…