LOVE OTHERS ALWAYS
Saikat Nag
Can't go back & change the beginning, but start from the present & change the ending
M sharing the following for I needed to....across the country a dark shadow of mutual distrust has laid its dirty hands on the very existence of the citizenry where the sacred words as scripted in the preamble of our holy sacred book - THE CONSTITUTION OF INDIA has been taken to ransom. I would directly pen down LOVE, yes let me not procrastinate further thinking the implicit significance of this word.?
I randomly talk of godliness, respecting others, holding others in high esteem, appreciating their ethical value systems, adoring them in all forms & finally loving them. Okay, sorry can't help but laughing at my own self, thanks to being at the receiving end of this word Love....Whom to love? How to love? Why love happens? Why love gets disguised especially under stress? Since childhood, we loved our parents, teachers, our classmates & all of a sudden as we got to traverse through adolescence we started shying away from being in love. We were tensed, biting our fingers, words getting staggered, expressions betraying the inner feelings...it happened with everyone of us...Right? Love happens no doubt , but scientifically or logically if dared to venture upon the flight of steps leading to love then we are left with no other option but to say that Love is an ability, a capacity in our minds that needs to be chronologically cultivated & this once developed, we get to imbibe the total freedom to love, getting augmented further by any situation which propels us into a fertile ground for our love to grow. Yes, ask the couples around, ask those already in togetherness for decades.?
I, yes, let me talk about myself...I sought love all around me, but I never gave a try to even have a look at the emotional significance of the word love in my life. I liked someone, so I say it is love but really is it so? I helplessly wait for love to be bestowed onto me. Alas! none bothered to even have a glance, forget about love. Why it happened??
I was aware that love is a bhakti, a devotion, a selfless pursuit towards a settled life, also within the ambit of love lies affection, a sense of responsibility. What we have towards our parents, teachers, country, knowledge & what we have towards our friends, brothers, sisters, animals, books, flowers are not along the same lines. Ask selves...yes, overlapping might be there, but this perceived overlapping needs to cleared for sustaining relationships in any form.?
I bid for a higher level, I wish to move upward towards an inspiring ideal, my mind expanding, my vision deepening, finally my efficiency multiplying >Love coined as prema.....when getting further elevated towards the Lord revealing the divine essence in man- Bhakti.
I ponder over my decision, I keep aloof, I cry within citing love, but is it really so? Can Love bless us with tears of grief or sorrow? Conceptually never, but it happens, how come? Our misunderstanding- our pleasure seeking habits on objects of our desire step by step throws us into a prison of sorrows, excitements uncalled for, pangs & sobs. Then further demoting down to just affection.
I believe in love, yes but that love has to get me relieved from the sense of incompleteness & alienation. is it possible through this 4 letter word? Why not? What stops me from spreading love? What thoughts inhibit me from percolating love throughout? Can I not love everyone without any sort of expectations, gains or profits? Why should I be seated in a bench pondering over the thought that love is not passive taking but rather a dynamic giving?
I debated within from every aspect what is making my life worrisome? Absence of love I conclude, that nobody loves me but then I start cursing myself when I start to realise love itself stands out to be an outstanding award in all its fullness, joyfulness, & most important in terms of being not subjected to any terms & conditions. So now is Love not a fulfillment in itself? Even if we realise this we don't dare to live it in our lives.Our inward vison, our spiritual insight has the impetus to make us feel emboldened & thereby discover the audacity to fall in love, thereby loving all creatures.?
I love only & only when I feel like being loved- what approach is this? Take & give? Well, what am I taking & what am I giving in terms of love? A very simple question. Some of us do Surya Pranam, what the Sun gives? What the trees give? What the creatures give? Every being is in the rhythmicity to give lovingly. Which being demands love from others? I fell in love, I thought, pondered but by mistake also I never demanded to be loved. Yes, I sought a few moments from some precious time & when it was not coming I did not panic. Yes I did deviate in my daily habits but I never passed my pain to others. I gulped the pain, but never fought with the pain. I did not express it either. On the contrary I am smiling, Why? Because it is love, not lust. It is give & give, neither give & take, nor take & take. That is love.
I believe in freedom of self, how can I be an obstacle in freedom of others? I give love conceptualising it as a true freedom. I did a historical blunder of demanding love which literally stands out to be act of slavery. If I was not loved I had frustration, I popped up undesirable substances but during all these courses I realised that I was not cheated, the person whom I fell in love with did not cheat me, it was me, my self-created hallucinated idea to be a supreme being got cheated. I insulted my own feeling, I insulted the word love. How all these happened still I do not know.
I am very much aware that God of our respective belief himself never distances away from blessing us irrespective of whether we love him or not.
I ASK FINALLY- WHO I WAS WHEN MOM, DAD, MY ELDER BROTHER TOOK ME IN THEIR ARMS AFTER MY BIRTH? WHO I AM AT PRESENT WHEN I AM AWAY FROM THEM? WHO I SHALL BE WHEN I WILL BE BACK AT THE CARING ARMS OF MY MOM & DAD?
I ANSWER- THE VERY SAME ENTITY...THAT VERY SAME......CRYING THEN SMILING THEN LAUGHING & FINALLY WEEPING AS GOING FOR A LONG LONG UNDISTURBED SLEEP IN THE LAP OF MY MOM & DAD.....A PRECISE JOURNEY OF LIFE
I? A HUMAN....;I? A DEVIL.......or I? HUMANLY HUMAN...................................