Love itself does not hurt. It is growth that hurts, the ego that stings.

Each transformation is painful because the old situation is being left behind for the new.

For example, when a relationship ends, we feel hurt, our hopes and dreams have crashed and we feel lost and lonely, wondering what comes next.

Fear arises because the unknown is in front of us, and the mind usually assumes the negative, saying things like,

"I'll never meet anyone else,"

"I'm too old/overweight/unattractive" or

"I don't have time for a new relationship."

The temptation is to shut down, open that bag of potato chips, pour that glass of wine/whiskey, turn on the TV and give up on love.

The real problem is the mind. Fear lives in the mind, and the mind wants you to hang on to a situation that is known and comfortable for you.

The ego-mind resists change because it is afraid of losing control and feels insecure about the unpredictability of the unknown. Love means the death of the ego, because love cannot be controlled, it can only be received and accepted.

Love is fragile.

For the mind, love is a dangerous path. The mind will advise you to avoid love, but this is even more dangerous, because love is the central core of our lives.

A life without love is a life that is withered and dried up.

One day it is there, the next day it may be gone -- like the wind. We cannot grasp the wind in our fist; we can only enjoy and appreciate it while it is there. With this awareness, be present with love, and it will grow and expand.

A gratitude practice is of tremendous help with all matters of the heart. For example, when that relationship ends, be grateful for the good times you shared, for what this person gave you with their energy, time and heart.

Thank them for being in your life and wish them well as they move on to what's next for them. When you hold this person with love in your heart, even though they may be the one breaking up with you and even if they've already met someone else, you are healing yourself.

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Thank you?…. It's love that heals your broken heart. By refusing to shut your heart down, and by facing the hurt and fear, you are able to receive all the love you need to heal and move on.

It is because of the pain of love that millions live a loveless life -- like a rotten seed that has never opened to flower to its fullest potential. If you don't go into love, as many people have decided, then you are stuck with your bags of potato chips!

Then, your life is a stagnant pool. You need to keep the energy flowing, like a river that keeps on flowing to the ocean.

Always choose love because even though there is pain, to suffer in love is not to suffer in vain; it takes you to higher levels of consciousness. There is a positive, creative outcome for you.

?If you choose the mind, you will also suffer, but it will be useless suffering with an unproductive outcome. Life will be dull, and you will become neurotic from lack of love. To be afraid of love and to be afraid of the growing pains of love is to remain enclosed in a dark cell.

The transformation we all go through is from control of the mind to vulnerability of the heart, and the agony can be deep. But you cannot have ecstasy without going through agony. If the gold wants to be purified, it has to pass through fire.

Do you want to add a word or two?

Love is fire.

Find your courage and love, fully and completely. Trust and live in your heart. Love takes you from the head to the heart and nurtures, comforts and heals you even as you pass through the fire.

With love, the ego drops, and the soul arises. Love is food for the soul.

You can ask yourself, "Is this pain for my growth?"

Is my heart-breaking open to give and receive even more love?

?Every time your heart breaks open, yes, it's painful, but it means your heart is expanding and deepening. The pain is productive.

Learn from each experience, watch the ego and choose love.

Go through the dark night and you reach a beautiful sunrise. It is only in the womb of the dark night that the sun evolves. It is only through the dark night that the morning comes.

Your Comments……

You have probably heard a lot of people say that “love hurts” — and we all tend to follow the crowd and believe that “love hurts” but this isn’t true.

Love doesn’t hurt you. A person that doesn’t know how to love hurts you. Don’t get it twisted.

I think Love is the most incredible thing in the world — but when people lie, cheat, and betray our trust, we become bitter, we blame love — we start losing hope in love.

The worst part about the heartbreak is that we lose ourselves trying to hold on to that person who doesn’t care at all.

We start saying “I am afraid to fall in love because I don’t want to get hurt again”

Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts.

Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.

I know how it feels to be broken. Been there and experienced that kind of pain. I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years but found out I’ve been cheated on this whole time.

When you find yourself in a similar situation, how do you begin to trust someone new?

It does take a lot of courage for a person to open their heart to someone new because we all have that fear inside of us due to bad past experience. But don’t let your past be an issue in your present and future.

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