Love & Fear: They can't exist equally...

Can You Feel The Difference Between What Scares You and What Excites You?

I remember being in the jungle in Costa Rica, deciding if I was going to zip line.

The distance between the trees was long and the elevation, really high.

It seemed like an unwise risk to take, as a Mother.

My thoughts were racing; worried the ropes could snap and I'd never see my daughter again.

I had a moment to ask myself, "What would I suggest she do?"

In that moment, there was a realization that fear was a reaction to the adrenaline in my body. I would want her to live fully. I would wish for her to take responsible risks and to experience life.

My God, I would want her to lean in and allow herself to lean into life.

You might think zip-lining isn't a responsible risk. One can say going to a shopping mall comes with risks.

But it begs the question;

"What will dictate the decisions in your life?"

Excitement and anxiety can feel very similar.

The distinction often is simple.

Is this something that lights you up and you love or is this something that terrifies you and makes you shrink?

Love and fear cannot exist equally.

One emotion will always dominate.

Choosing love over fear is a decision. It is intentional. It is a choice.

In challenging situations, there will be things you can still love and focus on to bring you through it.

My family suffered a terrible trauma ( as did many families) during covid. We grew closer, leaned on each other and found a deeper source of love between us. During that 18 month stretch of time, a positive outcome was dismal, and the odds of things working out the way we wanted were slim, but we had each other and that part of the ordeal I loved.

You choose what you focus on.

Sometimes, when life feels chaotic, it may feel near impossible to make that shift.

Getting comfortable with "less than" circumstances is a dangerous place to be.

In the US alone, close to 80% of employees are dissatisfied in their jobs. Many of them are living far below dissatisfaction and are much closer to hating where they are 8+ hours a day.

When "meh" is the new normal, it is a sign that it's time to take some risks.

So, how do you get out of a funk?

1. Recognize and acknowledge that you are in one. Being honest with yourself is a power-move.
2. Choose to take action even when you don't want to. Waiting to be "ready" is a recipe for failure. You won't feel 100% ready but look for the feeling of "enough of this!" , "I want more", "there's got to be more than this". Any of these will get you moving in a positive direction.

3. Choose help- there are so many forms of support available ranging from free to hiring your own Coach.

The most powerful thing you can do is to turn toward love.

In the darkest places, and in difficult spaces, love will take you where you want to go. It may seem that it hating where you are is getting you to move and this is part of it. The contrast between where you are and what you truly want can be very motivating.

Truth is , is it the love for what you want that will get you there.

Loving yourself enough to live from that source will heal you faster than anything else. There are endless studies that show the measurable difference love made in healing, recovering, growing and thriving.

Loving your work. Loving your partner. Loving your home-life. Loving your well-being. Loving your friends and community. Loving the highs and even loving the lows.

Yes, even those.

When you can embrace and accept what is, you are well on your way to shifting to so much more.

To love. To where you are destined to be.

The highest, purest frequency of all.

With love,

xxx

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