“Love” is a biochemical reaction within your brain when you see someone you find physically attractive, ENHANCE your wellbeing ...part 184
Things don’t happen to people who wait for things to happen.
They happen to people who get off their asses and become active participants in life.
This is true across the board.
Want a better job? Start sending out those applications……and stop waiting.
Want more money? Start working on that side hustle…….and stop waiting.
Want love?
It’s no different.
Get yourself out there and meeting people……and stop waiting.
Results come from a lifestyle that favors action over endless deliberation. They come from a mindset that prefers to correct along the way instead of sitting there and trying to make the “perfect plan.”
Patience has its place, most certainly.
But patience IN ACTION.
Not patience in laziness.
Patiently waiting for results when you are acting is wisdom.
Patiently waiting for results when you are sitting on the couch is insanity.
Get out of your house, and into life.
Stop buying self-help books that make you feel good but get you nowhere.
Instead, act.
Start a club. Go to a meetup. Join a sports team.
Get more social, surround yourself with people, and you’d be surprised how many opportunities for love are out there.
Sure, love will find you……but only when you have gone searching for life.
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Thank you …They say “True Love , walks in quietly when you least expect it.
It does not make any noise , it just walks in the dim moonlight holding your hands and takes you along , making you watch that glittering and bright sunrise. And then it disappears somewhere in the mist”…. making you want it more and more ….and you can never get over it ..Never!!
I guess we find it sometimes in a hopeless place, at a hopeless time. When we least expect it! Some find it in the form of their best friends, some in their solitude , some in a pet , some over tinder (yes , you read that right!) , some via FB , some through arranged marriages and what not !
And then , it finds us in our habits of being together , in our companionship we do not want to give away , in the little compromises we do happily , in the amount of time we invest on someone , in the honesty we build with someone over a period of time , in the tears we shed over a breakup, in the thoughts where we wove a happy marriage and what not !!
Remember: Always rise in love, do not fall!! :)
Want to add word or two?
Neither you should find love, nor do love find you. People find love, when they are alone, unsatisfied, bored with usual life. “Love” find you, when they are bored, alone and unsatisfied with their life. And love leaves the room as soon as one of them or both of them finds it useless, complicated and not working for the two of you.
In other words, love is not meant to be found, it is meant to be developed for the people you value for, care for and desire the most and it should be there till the last breadth of both. Loving is easy, staying in it, is the toughest task.
Your comment ….?
Think it just happens….?
Often at awkward, inappropriate times. Like when you have just started dating another person because you were lonely. Or just as you are about to go overseas.
I think that is why our ancestors believed in cupid. Because love strikes at odd times in odd ways. Often when you are not expecting it, not looking for it, or not ready for it.
I think Romeo and Juliet was a classic for this. Romeo was in love with Rosalyn, but she wanted to becomes a nun. Then to cheer him up his cousin got him to gate crash a party of his enemy. He fell for Juliet at the party, sworn enemy to his family. Juliet’s dad had just agreed for Paris to marry Juliet.
If Rosalin had loved Romeo back, he would never have met Juliet. If Juliet had not been promised to Paris, she would have had time to work on her parents about marrying Romeo. If Juliet had like Paris more than Romeo, she would have married him.
Shakespeare understood about bad timing, wrong person, and inconvenience in love.
There is a line from a love song I often listen to which goes, “Pity those who wait, trusting love to fate. Finding out too late that they've lost it”.
You find love when you let go of your checklist on how an ideal partner should be. You find love when you believe in the goodness of people, even if you have been disappointed countless times before. We've all heard it before —don’t let past experiences ruin your future.
Love finding you is a fairy tale-esque ideal. Love does not come and find you when you do not present the best version of yourself.
This does not mean that you go looking for it desperately. This only means that you live your life as honest and as sincere as you possibly can. Then and only then will someone appreciate you for who you really are without pretense.
Believe that you deserve to be loved and be ready to receive that love when it comes.
Managing Director at DAYALIZE
4 年The concept of love is a very intriguing thing. You just can't expect or dream to love someone at some or the other point in your life. It happens. But the thing is you just don't know when love happens. ?There will be some people in whose life there will be a phase where he/she should go after someone for love and at the same time there will be people who just wait for someone to love them in the way that they intend to be loved. It's like time, timing, fingerprint and the impression of the lines on your tongue…. Everybody has their own story written. I personally feel that love that finds you is more preferable and if you're okay with the love that has been offered to you then things might be easier. Don't struggle to get into a relationship. Let life happen. In the same way.. Let love happen to you. Love is mutual. ?You can put yourself out there for dating, but trying to force something doesn't make it occur. You can sometimes express an interest in someone, but that's all you can do. You can wait for the other person to make the first move, but if they don't, Yes, sometimes You need to make the initial effort by trying to talk to them. You may also have to be the one to (if appropriate, and talking seems to go well) ask them if they're like to have a date with you. Some women feel that like the men should always make the first move, but that's no longer considered standard in our culture. Even you feel that a man is interested, he may be shy. He may not want to be intrusive toward a woman. He may not be sure that she's single, etc. Find the balance between making too much effort, and not making enough. See what a situation calls for. You may be disappointed if you expect someone else to make things happen for you.