Love is Beyond Perfection - Tips for Establishing a Strong Bond with Your Partner.

When I say love, then you should translate it as “giving”, “providing”, “caring” with no intention of expecting any return.

I know there are concepts which are like equality in love, the efforts must be on both sides. Those who got it, they are truly enjoying it, but that is not the case all the time.

With the increased rate of misunderstanding among humanity, there will be a question that rises and makes us feel so vulnerable, will there be ever relationships like the olden days.

Here, I would like to talk about love today, a sentimental emotion that makes and breaks humans, a sensitive subject that is immeasurable and have the power to destroy someone’s life. An attractive element, which can build beautiful families.

During a group gathering, I had an opportunity to give a talk on the relationships. I chose to concentrate on love, and I have finished it in 20 minutes, after the talk a person came to me and asked a question. And trust me, it is this conversation which has filled the purpose but not the speech that I delivered.

Mr. Kannan: Dear Prasanna Dasari, so what advice would you give to a couple who are in relationship for a while and are planning to part ways due to the increased misunderstandings between them?

Me: Thanks for giving me a reason to fulfil my purpose Mr. Kannan, I will answer you this question. But not here, let us go and grab a cup of coffee.

We both went to a café and grabbed our seats with two coffee mugs in our hands.

Me: It is not easy to love someone, and it is also not easy to hurt someone. I will explain you clearly about how love works and consider this as a life-advice, and this is being practiced by me and showing me positive results. Then I continued…

We have evolved as humans, we have senses, thinking capability, decision making and every other genius thing which other species of our planet does not has. They have just either one or two senses and they are perfect in it and they will master it. They don’t have multiple things to handle, example is a dog, I am a dog lover and I have closely observed them and read about them about the super smelling power they possess. It is their only skill to hone. Apart from that, they don’t even concentrate much on the other things, whereas we humans, we have 5 senses and then the emotions and feelings, we have hormones, whose duty is to react as per the situation and fed the information to the brain on how we react.

Among all these things, evolution has taught us one best thing, togetherness. No history lesson encourage us to fight alone, multitudes of people has travelled together and conquered nations, even the Alexander the great, who is known to be the greatest conqueror in the history has his closest mate by his side.

Now, I am not against them who want to be single, alone, and wants to achieve greater heights. I was there once, I have joined the monk’s trainings, turned myself into a better version once I have faced similar challenges with people.

But that choice of mine, to be alone and achieve has led me into the life where I need few people around.

Being alone, solo life is good to explore your inner self, you can utilize this time to communicate with your own self, what are your capabilities, how well you could handle any situation, what are your strengths and weaknesses.

It is filled with solitude, but again, it is recommended up to certain years. After that, it is again your choice either to choose a family or to stay all by yourself forever. Family, I will talk about this later, as this is not the family what you are thinking about.

My journey being a trainee monk has opened my eyes in the early days of practice itself, I was depressed, lost interest in life and as I am not a coward, I don’t want to seek refugee in drugs and suicide, I chose the best option to spend some time all alone with myself.

I have distanced with people and there I have found the lost me.

Life always gives us two choices, in any scenario you just take as an example, it may appear that we have multiple choices to choose the best, but if we analyze, it is always the two choices. This is where humanity keeps failing these days.

If you want to have a good love journey, then you must be prepared for something that is not even possible for a normal person to implement right away without practice. You cannot expect the result without any process.

When I was 20 years old, I have no purpose, now moving closer to 30, and I know what exactly I need. This realization part may took 10 years of study, deeper understanding of self, but it requires determination.

You need to be prepared if you want to love someone and keep them safe with you. I am a male when consider the sex as per the universe, but my mind can also prepare myself to stop showing that male ego, which ruins most of the bonds. I have learned to master it, but not to suppress it.

Due to this, few people call me I am a useless male, the so-called alpha male category may mark me as someone who cannot justify himself. But there is a good reason for me to become what I have become. And this is the only way how it will work.

I will share you the facts of life, apply and see them, if they do not work, then definitely there is a work needs to be done. Because if you practice what I am about to say here, you will cherish it.

Most of the people get into the relationships to escape from some kind of trauma in their lives, or they just allow themselves to the concept of love because they feel that they are not loved and wanted to find it from some other person, it gives them the confidence that they are also deserved to be loved, which they did not receive it through the right channel.

Cultural restrictions, family background, geographical considerations, all these play a major role in dealing with the relationships.

Since we are discussing this on the Valentine’s Day, I would like to set this between two couple, we can call them love birds. This will be the answer for why many relationships are failing there.

But before I pitch these points on how to maintain a good relationship.

If you want to get into a serious relationship with a boy or girl. Make sure you are ready to follow these steps:

• It must be always you to understand and assess the other person’s mood and act accordingly, they are sometimes not going to show you any signs of mood swifts. You must be smart enough to handle this.
• If you want to love and stay with one single partner throughout the life, then be ready to lose yourself first. Your self-respect is like their slippers, they can wear and throw it out whenever they needed, but you should have that guts to keep that all in your acceptance list.
• You must love that person, no matter what happens, even if they beat you to death, misunderstands you, makes you the central reason for the situations which you are not even aware of, makes you responsible for those things which you do not have any idea about, all these things will keep on repeating and you should have that love without being reduced any point. If you are that much strong enough and you possess that endurance, then you will be able to make your relationship to stay alive.
• You should be able to ready to sacrifice everything for the person whom you loved, it is fair for them to do anything, but you should never let your pain to take a voice, stand up and talk about yourself, you must die inside completely to live in their heart, you can call it slavery, but if you do it, the relationship will get succeeded.
• You should be prepared to undergo trauma, and even if the other person is ready to kill you, you must be silent.

Now, these all are the mantras for a perfect relationship.

If you practice this level of patience, you will reach to a point where perseverance and patience will become your best tools.

There will be different types of people who will completely disagree with my propaganda. But, this is the only way to have a long lasting relationship.

The major practice of peace and patience is inspired from my father, and the rest is from the own chase after finding a purpose in my life.

You need to love the person so much that their worst version is your top selective option to love the most.