LOVE is Action

I always get really sad listening to eulogies - yes, of course, due to the passing of a loved one, but more so because all those wonderful words spoken of the dearly departed were not always explicitly shared with them while they were still alive.

Did they really know how much they meant to you? How they impacted your life? What positive legacy they left behind? What you most valued about them or how they touched your heart?

I made a pact with myself quite a few years ago that I want to live with 'no regrets'. That means I will say and express my feelings to those I care about now, while I can, while I have the chance. My friends and loved ones know this.

Through the bitter sweet experiences of grief and loss, I've learned that what we regret most in life is what we didn't do or say, far more than what we did do or say.

LOVE is action - not just thoughts, words or good intention. How would I know you love me if it’s not shared or expressed or demonstrated in some way?

No one is an accurate mind reader, and mind reading doesn’t work. Our lack of display of love may be misinterpreted as a lack of love.

I believe this is the root cause of misunderstanding in relationships.

If you love someone, show them in some small way.

Consider the 5 love languages and seek to offer love in a way that resonates for the receiver eg. words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts or tokens, acts of service and/or quality time. Any way of demonstrating love is better than no way. Jx