Lost that lovin' feeling?

( CAUTION ……sensitive article ) !

Turns out it could be bad for your health.

Sex is a fundamental aspect of who we are as humans. It’s pretty much how we got here.

Sex can be special, and it can make a person feel special. However, just because someone has sex with you doesn’t necessarily mean you’re special to him or her. If the other person is having sex with you for, say, reasons of reputation, you stand to get hurt when your desire for love and a sense of worth fall through.

But procreation isn’t the whole story, not by a long shot. Recreation is a big part of our sexual expression.

We flirt, we touch, we make love, we have flings, we seduce, entice, indulge … and we also wonder and worry about “doing it” enough or well. We think about it everyday, most people do anyway - both men and women to be clear, but what happens if you don’t have sex?

What about those among us who aren’t counting the days between shags, but the years?

There are many more than most realize and they – those living without sex – are both single and in relationships.

Just what can one expect when sex has left the building, the lovely lovin’ time is gone, and the earth isn’t shaking anymore?

What happens when you don’t have sex?

First, not having sex isn’t the end of the world. Yes, it’s good for us, and yes it feels good and has loads of good benefits.

 But people live long healthy happy lives without it too. Don’t panic. Almost everyone goes through periods of time without sex.

So just out of curiosity, if you happen to be in one of those times, or it’s on your horizon, check out what happens when you’re not getting busy all the time.

When You Stop Having Sex

You cope less well with stress. Having sex is a stress buster.

It relieves tension in the body physically and emotionally. If you don’t find a substitute (and exercise does work well here as a less enjoyable substitute) you won’t have an outlet to work out usual or extra stress.

Make sure you have a Plan B for stress if you aren’t having sex anymore.

You can get sicker. Regular sex boosts our immune system and helps keep us healthier. People who have regular sex have fewer heart attacks or strokes and are healthier. So take those extra multivitamins if sex is off your menu for a while.

You can feel more depressed. Sex puts a smile on our face and spring in our step and makes us feel vibrant.

 If you’re at all prone to feeling blue, going without sex can make that feel a bit more acute. Watch your moods and get a support network in place if you’ve gone off sex for now – or ever.

 Your relationship can feel disconnected. Well, sure - If you’re not getting intimate in an intimate, romantic relationship, it will start to feel lonely and you will feel disconnected from your partner.

You can fix this, even without having sex, by emphasising the other areas of your relationship that help you feel close. If you don’t, your romantic relationship won’t last … or it will become a different, companionate type of relationship instead.

You may feel isolated, or experience low self esteem. Feeling desired makes us feel good! If we don’t experience that, we can feel alone and possible also badly about ourselves, our self concept as an exciting, interesting, sexy person.

Draw yourself out – don’t let lack of sex make you feel unsexy – because we are sexual creatures regardless of whether we are actually doing the deed at that time or not!

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Thank you …You may experience a lower libido. Like the chicken and egg theory, really: once you stop having sex your body and brain will desire it less and even to the point when desire for sex stands still.

Some people get to a place where they don’t miss it at all. And 1 per cent of the population are asexual entirely – not only not engaging in sex, not remotely attracted to anyone sexually either.

Mostly, for the average person, if you stop having sex, eventually you will stop even wanting sex. The body and mind will adjust to a new normal.

You might start obsessing over it!

You could be one of those people who can’t stop talking about it or thinking about it, because well, you miss it!

The lack of sex in your love life translates to a focus on it in any other situation. Be careful not to be inappropriate or you might find you have more problems than just missing a sex life!

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Disaster could strike and you could have a total relationship breakdown or even one of you could have an affair.

A sad, but true stereotype. Sexless marriage is more common than you think but if a sexless elationship continues for too long, eventually one partner will become bored, restless, far too unsatisfied so the levels of general unhappiness surge and eventually one partner if not both look elsewhere for love, affection and yes, sex.

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You may get more productive in other ways!

Without a sex life to distract you, draining your energy and attention, you might find you become a star at work or find a new activity or hobby you never made time or space in your life for before. Bonus!

You might spend up big, or seek dopamine highs in other ways.

Having sex feel sgood and meets a need in our bodies and brains to get that high in our life of pleasure responses.

Without sex as one of those outlets, other ways could become triggered, or be enhanced. You might get your jollies drinking wine or eating sugar or thrugh retail therapy.

People go through dry spells for lots of reasons. Sometimes people who aren’t in a relationship have a hard time finding a person they’d like to have sex with. The attraction between the people in a couple can diminish.

Other times people just don’t want to have sex. So, what happens when you don’t have sex for a long time? 

Immune system

Regular sex improves the immune system and prepares the body to fight off illness by releasing endorphins. This means that having sex less often might result in more frequent illnesses, like the cold or flu.

Vaginal health

Having sex after a long break can be uncomfortable. It takes longer for the female body to become aroused and produce enough lubrication to make sex easy and comfortable. Regular sex can keep the tissues in your vagina healthy by improving blood flow.

This is actually not entirely clear. Some experts are thorough advocates for regular sexual activity as a way of “stoking the fire “of your in the belief that a period of abstinence will lessen sexual desire over time as your body dampens hormonal response to arousal.

Others disagree, though, so it may be a personal matter that depends on your own sexual experiences.