Look in the Mirror

Welcome to the Emotional Mastery Newsletter with Moksha Grace Coaching.

A weekly newsletter bringing you new perspectives and shining a light on some common missteps and limiting beliefs that hold us back on our path to emotional liberation.

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If you’re just getting to know me, my name is Michelle and I am an Emotional Liberation Coach.

I guide clients through releasing limitations and learning to work with their emotions so that they can show up more fully in every area of their lives.

When was the last time you looked in the mirror?

Did you like what you saw?

Maybe it was while you were brushing your teeth or checking your outfit before leaving for work. Maybe it’s so ingrained in your routine that it’s a non-event and you hardly remember.

As women, we’re essentially taught that the mirror is where we look to find the imperfections that need to be covered up.

One of my favorite movies, Mean Girls, highlights this experience beautifully.

Despite that, what if I told you that a mirror can be a powerfully positive tool if we allow it to be?

When was the last time you looked into a mirror and saw past the physical reflection? Truly saw the emotions?

When was the last time you didn’t squish those emotions back down deep inside, but instead welcomed them out?

They say you can’t address what you don’t see. Well, now is the time to see.

All of those emotions, those feelings, those “demons” that you are pushing down. Every single one are fragments of you.?

They make up who you are, how you act, how you react, and how you make decisions.

And if you refuse to truly see them, acknowledge them, and process them, that also means you are not the one making the decisions. Your emotions are.

The more we accept ourselves for who we are, accept the emotions we feel, and understand how to manage the different aspects of ourselves…

…THAT’S when we can say that we have self-mastery.?

It’s called radical responsibility and it will change your life.

What does that mean and how do you do it?

It starts with being vulnerable. Most importantly with yourself.

You know, some old triggers have come up for me the last few weeks. I could have pushed them down, told myself I didn’t have time to deal with them right now, and pushed forward.

But I knew if I did that I wouldn’t be bringing my best self to a situation. I’d also unintentionally bring negative energy with me.

Through my vulnerability, I was able to process these triggers, see different perspectives, and ultimately clear them out of my system (for now).

In that moment I just needed to talk it out. I needed to sit down with someone I trusted and talk it through my system. I didn’t need, nor want, anyone to fix the problem for me. Just to listen.

This situation also got me thinking of all the times in my past that I didn’t allow myself the opportunity to be vulnerable. The times I held it all in. The times I wish I would’ve chosen differently.

But I didn’t know any better at those times.?

Through coaching and a lot of inner work, I’m better at looking in the mirror. I’m better at asking for help and other perspectives.

(Notice I didn’t say “perfect”.)

I decided - because we all have choices - that I didn’t want to look back in my last moments at a life of things I wish I would have done differently. Ways I would have spoken or behaved differently.?

I chose to get to work, now. Master my inner world, now.?

Not later.?

And I would invite you to do the same.?

Do it now so that you can have the life you want…NOW.?

Not sometime in the future. Or when it's convenient.?

Take a close look at yourself in the mirror.?

What is life reflecting back to you? Do you feel frustrated a lot? Sad? Annoyed? Angry?

Has your career stagnated? Your relationships are rocky? Your finances dwindling?

It’s true, sometimes this is the hardest part - seeing the things you’ve been avoiding.?

Here's a little cheat sheet for you if you’re struggling to get started - Think of a few people you have a hard time getting along with or you just don’t like. What do you specifically not like about them? Or what frustrates you about them??

More often than not, the people we don't get along with, the people that we don't appreciate spending time with, share characteristics with us that we are not ready to face.

Maybe you don’t love spending time around your Aunt because she’s nosey. It might look different, but could you be as well? Maybe it’s always driven you crazy that your dad is so hardheaded. Could that be a reflection?

It's all about the reflection.?

Look into the mirror. No matter what is there, allow yourself to see it. Acknowledge it. Embrace it.??

Don't shield yourself from it because the more you shield, the bigger it gets.

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