Living For Success Or To Live Your Life?
Dorothy A. Martin-Neville, PhD
Guiding Visionary Leaders Through the Gift of Transition to the Freedom of Transformation. Challenging existing paradigms, discovering innovative solutions, and honoring value-driven leadership for success on all levels.
When others ask me what I do I can have a wide variety of answers depending upon the situation, timing, and their experiences.
When what you do is really simply a reflection of who you are, it is so intimate it can be shared in a few words “I change lives.”?
In responses such as “I create transformational experiences for those going through transition.”? they say so much, yet they say so little, simultaneously.
I can ask questions: “Do you know those situations where leaders finally realize the price they paid to get where they are?” “Have you had those moments when everything you worked for seems to be disappearing?” “Do you know the experience where you’re overwhelmed, lost, and exhausted from carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and you realize you need a massive reset in your life, your mindset, and your dreams?”?
Well, what I do is support/guide those highly successful leaders who have reached those places, remember who they are, where they got lost, and rediscover the person who had dreams, ambition, and a desire to feel fully alive. I support the transformation needed so that their transition back and then forward is not done from exhaustion, disgust, or depression. Rather we make it a journey inward of self-discovery with actionable steps that transform completely how they go through life after working with me. It’s not a problem fix – it’s a major readjustment in an approach to life, relationships, and success.
For those confused about their purpose in life, the reason they are here. It’s not that difficult to discover.?
What feeds your soul? What makes you feel alive? When was the last moment you allowed yourself to experience you? Not your do to list, nor your responsibilities, nor your supposed obligations.?
In speaking with a client today, I pointed out the well-developed ability to assess everyone else’s needs and take on the responsibility of filling them. I also pointed out the inability to even consider their own personal needs or wants, realizing that is why they had no idea what those needs or wants were.
Loving others, loving your work, loving your life, requires that you invest in each but before doing so, it requires that you invest in you. Success, whatever that word means to you, is an experience of achieving your goals or even exceeding them. To truly be successful however requires that you not focus on the success but that you focus on the joy and experience of living your dreams. In doing so, you feel so alive, so successful, and totally as if you are exactly where you were meant to be regardless of how “successful” you are at the moment.?
Otherwise, you will not be happy until you reach that number, that level, that impact. This is how we disappear from our lives. The focus ceases being on your experience and far more on an external, objective goal that brings no joy until you reach it. If you have ever done that you may have noticed that the more you get close, the farther away it becomes. Like the carrot in front of the horse, you will never reach it because you keep pushing it further.?
Know what your dream is, your purpose, and give yourself permission to love the journey of living it while you reach for greater impact and influence in making the world a better place. In? the meantime, you will be filled with gratitude for the journey you are living, the adventure that is developing, and the self you are discovering.?Have a great week!
Dorothy
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No matter your age, position, or dream, transition is a time of excitement, fear, stepping into the unknown, the resultant confusion, and the need for risk taking.
It is also a time for letting go, dreaming bigger than ever, and realizing that your next step in personal and/or professional growth is at your doorstep.?
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