Living Life Beyond the Mask

Were you a “good girl” growing up?

?Are you uncomfortable with disappointing others till this day??

?Let’s talk about either or’s.

?People pleasing or disappointing other people.

?Opting for an immediate fix of someone else’s approval or…involved in following your purpose and life plan??

?It’s an either or. But not necessarily a choice you are aware of or one you can clearly see.

?The Good Girl usually looks out for pleasing others first…it’s about wanting to feel accepted and “doing the right thing” ALWAYS.

?I used to be a “good girl” and I used to think if I was always kind and nice that I’d never disappoint anyone and that would = happiness.

?And If I tried hard enough and if I accomplished enough, if I was less needy, I would be well liked and that would = happiness.

?I invested a lot of time in believing I was a capable, a responsible, “good” person, needing to always prove it to myself.? I believed that if I was a “good girl” I would feel safe and then I could avoid getting tangled up in the chaos that seemed to surround me as a young girl in my home of 13 children.?

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My formative years set the stage for the masks I decided to wear.

?My mask kept me in good standing, parents didn’t worry about me so that put the focus on the other children who were acting out. There was always a lot going on.?

?So, happiness meant keeping the peace, not rocking the boat and being a “yes” girl- that was a way to survive in my home. We were your average large, catholic family just with 2? parents running around stamping out fires with their own individual problems to worry about and focus on. Heart disease was my mom’s struggle and alcoholism and a Manic Depression combo for my step Dad… I now realize they did the best that they could, given, their personal circumstances. Heck- we were fed and clothed. I see that as an accomplishment.

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With all that said, my life’s mission, since childhood, was to not be a bother, never ask for help and instead, be the self-sufficient girl living on my own island.

?I then kept the peace for years after leaving home... the good girl turned into the supportive wife, the “always there for you” friend, the doting mother and the indispensable employee, the sought after fitness instructor,? the knock it out of the park choreographer, the hostess with the mostest, and the dream maker for my sweet family of three.

?Who wouldn’t like “a good girl”?

?The good girl "mask" served me well and there were traits that supported me in sustaining my role, like perfectionism and aspiring to be the best I could be in my role as a fitness professional. It helped set me apart in the industry, advance my career, and I became focused on improving my physique- to the point where I was aways focused on improvement…

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?I was living well. Well, let’s just say, I was living the best I knew how. I created a beautiful home, raised our sweet daughter, took care of my health, was one fit human and a fun and funny person that people liked to be around.

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But eventually the good girl crashes. It’s inevitable. Some outside circumstance, a dream unfulfilled, resentment that builds…it can take one to the edge of not being able to tolerate the pressure of living as a “good girl”

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And this is what I found to be true with the cross section of smart, talented women I work with. They end up walking into midlife, feeling unfulfilled, carrying regret and resentment. And more times than not, an outside event scrambles their life.?The divorce, the job loss, the relationship strain…(.xxx) insert yours.

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?The good girl in me walked away from an opportunity to become a cycle star. My dream career! Just to support my husband’s career advancement at age 50. But after we moved for that job my fitness career was over, just like that, due to a debilitating Lyme disease diagnosis. ( which made it impossible to enjoy move, at times walk, or think with a clear head!)

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?My body was screaming…stop kneeling at the altar of pleasing others!!?

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?I learned to grow through what I was going through. Which wasn’t always natural, intuitive or easy to navigate. It certainly wasn’t for me.?

?But, I would eventually learn that my good girl behavior was the cause of my dis-ease and inability to fully help myself. There was a lot to sort through. And that I did but I needed to recruit help, heck I didn’t know where to start. It seemed too overwhelming to think about.

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Now, my wish is that every woman has the tools of Reinvention at her disposal. Because a radical awakening is what’s really needed to get back in the game. And not just get back in the game and carry on like business as usual… but to face this time as an opportunity to uplevel and upgrade your inner world so you can effectively?and powerfully impact your outer world experiences.

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-To be able to say no when you mean it and know what you really want.

- To prioritize yourself, know your worth and stand inside it so you can attract abundance and joy in your life.

-To ask for help by declaring you don’t know how to get back to living well and living better than you did before.

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You deserve to uncover your truth and live BEYOND THE MASK.

?Now let’s get you believing in yourself and replenishing your self-love stores.?

?Does this resonate with you? Have you been a “good girl” type, at work or in your daily life?

Want to learn how you can take off the good girl mask and powerfully craft a life that not only feels good to you, but is FOR YOU?? Without the guilt!!

?Let’s connect and chat about what’s not going well and what you’d like to change in your life. Maybe you’d be a great candidate for my Limitless Living program? We get behind the mask so you can remove it and free yourself!

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THE GOOD GIRL CAN BECOME THE unstoppable woman and I can show you the way home, back to yourself.?And it doesn't mean you have lose this trait...you can learn how to use it, so it doesn't USE you.

Here for you always and in all ways, Laura

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