Living in fantasy: "Zone out" of mind

I have entire world inside my head, and that hasn’t prevented me from doing well in school, having friends and doing what I love. Just because you have your “head up in the clouds” doesn’t mean you are crazy. For me it means that I just need a creative outlet to express myself and my ideal world and story. My advice: Don’t stop! If you find it’s interfering with your life and friends, set aside just 20 minutes a day to just think and create. I personally think this little mind exercise has really expanded my ability to use the "Theory of Mind",

In short, the Theory of Mind is the human ability to put yourself in others shoes, I can really put myself into others shoes and I think in general my imagination has improved. If you’re not one of the people who do this, I highly encourage you to do so, it’s a form of fun for me and I love it. Just sit back, put yourself in someones or somethings shoes and just create a story. It’s usually alright. I zone out and create characters and worlds myself.

One of the things you may be interested in is a role-playing game, where you can create your own character with a backstory and relationships, and then play the game through the character’s eyes. One of the things that I do is writing, I write down what my character is doing in their world and what’s happening and as I write I develop it. It just means you have high creativity and perhaps intuition. Just be careful to concentrate on being focused when you drive or need to get work done. If it doesn’t bother you throughout your everyday life though, then it should be fine, and may even be good.

I noticed you used ‘escape’ to refer to how you go into your fantasy worlds. You probably prefer your thoughts and mind over tangible and physical things, and that’s okay, it just means you have a really amazing mind, and it’s all your own. You’re most likely an introvert, and have good intuition, so you get good impressions of people and the answer sometimes comes to you like you predict the outcome of a movie before others know what’s going to happen.

This will sound a bit strange, but instead of entering a fantasy world, why not instead let the fantasy world “spill out” into the real world? In mysticism, it is believed that before anything can exist in the tangible world, it must first exist in the “astral plane”, where all possibilities are thought up. We visit this “astral plane” when we daydream, fantasize, and even when we worry. (Notice how worry often has the same mental mechanism as daydreaming.) It is also believed that we could “access” and “control” what happens in the astral plane so that it could “manifest” in the real world. This is what new age calls “visualization”, and what religion calls “prayer”. I’d like to believe that I have experienced success with this, but you’ll have to see if it works for you.

Life is neither an amusement park nor a roller coaster ride and for that matter neither fantasy orientated only. Its extremely essential to practice pure disciplined awareness regimens observance at all given times/instances so that in that state of being you’re not drifting away but are instead drafting/incorporating and integrating more authentic/legitimate and meaningful experiences well defined sets of realizations. Maybe because you are spending more time in your room rather than your friends and family. You can created your own world where you are happy, you like to imagine things in your mind. You should go out with your friends ,enjoy with them . Try to engage to more and more people, increase your friend circle.

For most people, these fantasies are localized to one or a few specific areas, as opposed to fantasies of being an entirely different person. For example, for men, a common fantasy realm is that where their success with women is far greater than it is in real life. They imagine themselves as being able to get any woman they want (excessive porn use likely reinforces this fantasy), so the dearth of romance in their life doesn’t hurt as much. Escapism is a way of attempting to negate our personal responsibility and to avoid the discomfort of existential angst that we all must deal with. We are ultimately responsible for all the decisions that we make and the actions that we take, but living in a fantasy world is a way of absolving ourselves of the consequences of our actions. To the escape artist, “real life" is no longer their problem.Most of us had fantasized or daydreamed.

Imagine, creativity and fantasize. To imagine is to think of images, and we can use this capacity of the mind in our favor or to our detriment. In our favor it would be to think of images to reflect, plan, understand problems, remember, solve practical questions ... Also to create something new, which would be part of creativity, which is undoubtedly a very useful capacity. For example, if we are going to build something, first we imagine it mentally, then we can build it; or if I have to go to the station, I can see in mental images the way to get there, this makes my journey easier.

However, using thought in images to dream something chimerical, feigned, invented facts that have no reality in order to produce generally pleasurable sensations, that would be fantasizing and is harmful psychologically speaking. It is the equivalent of a drug, a psychological drug that produces a false temporary well-being, with its subsequent decay that encourages a new dose, in this case of unreality. Fantasizing is addictive, you just have to try to quit that habit, to realize that it is not so easy to avoid it. Even many people are barely aware that they fantasize.

- In children it is similar. For example, there is an evolutionary stage in which they play roles, imagine being a father or a mother and thereby rehearse situations, create new associations, are not fantasizing, are using imagination to learn. But when they invent that their "uncle is a policeman and has a tank", even when they know that this is false, they deceive themselves with the purpose of escaping reality, trying to avoid some fear. Imagine how things would be if they had happened otherwise, that would be, imagine, and we can learn from it. To fantasize, to get drunk assuming a different life in which usually the one who dreams is the protagonist, is a way to escape from reality. This form of evasion occurs when some aspect of reality is unpleasant or causes suffering, and it is not known how to deal with it.

Fantasizing is a system of false emotional compensation, and produces an illusory well-being that confuses the mind, disorients, fosters mental blockage and insecurity. Increases frustration and rejection of life, because the circumstances and people around the dreamer do not meet the expectations of their dreams. It also entails a high expenditure of psychological energy, which makes it more difficult to face the challenges of everyday life and deepen their understanding, and thereby aggravate the problems they run away from.

In extreme cases, the habit of fantasizing can become a pathological disorder by itself. Most people who suffer from such a disorder keep it a secret, and have difficulty behaving fluidly in real life situations. When this issue is addressed with them, they recognize that this disorder has a negative effect on their lives. Also, fantasizing may be coupled with disorders such as social phobia and depression, or used to try to mishandle a traumatic situation such as abuse. Learn to face reality with intelligence. A person who learns to face the conflicts of everyday life, who manages to live life with intensity and curiosity, will not need to fantasize and stop evoking unrealities.

As always, it is not a matter of judging yourself for it, but of understanding that it is a false exit to problems, and that it will generate more difficulties. The emotional part plays a fundamental role in any conflict, but in this case especially. On the other hand, to quit this habit, we must identify the aspects of reality that are feared, which are not known to be resolved or believed to have no solution, and learn to face those fears. In that sense, as a simple formula we can deduce that if you fantasize about a wonderful couple, you probably fear loneliness or not having a concrete social image; if he fantasizes about having a lot of money, the fear would be a shortage; if he fantasizes about some kind of social success, the fear would be not to be valuable in the eyes of others, etc.

We must address the unpleasant emotions that generate the circumstances of real life, and that are being rejected, to be able to confront problems with serenity and solve them, whether they are real circumstances of the present or if they are fears towards the future. Psychologically speaking, everything has a solution, if you learn how. The future is the consequence, the effect of the present, just as the present is the result of the past. If we put our interest in solving what is wrong in the present, our future will be much more satisfactory, for us and for others. There's nothing wrong in living in imaginary world but you need to make memories with people you love because after all we are here to love,share and to create memories. Cheers!