Living a Dream?

How many times have we heard people tell us that they are "living the dream' Or "living their dreams"? If they are living their dreams, does this also mean, working? Does this mean they found their soulmate; their children are perfect and never cause worry or fear? Does this mean they are a partner, founder or President of a firm they can not say enough about? Maybe this means they never argue with anyone, including friends and family?

As Walt Disney says, "all our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them". There are very few that have the instinct, never mind the courage to pursue anything, much less their dream(s).

As we age, we for the most part, we become settled in what we know and have learned over the past decade. We still learn and continue to grow. Since we all have our own versions of what it means to be "living the dream" we really do not have the ability to judge if anyone is or isn't. The only thing that we can do is take them at face value.

I am hoping to help many understand that to judge before you know, or have walked a mile in someone else's shoes is, in my opinion, the most ridiculous thing that you can ever do! Do you really know the person that your judging, or do you just think you do? To judge or make a judgement against someone without really knowing that individual is just rude. You may know someone for many, many years, but the moment that you lose touch you lose the right to say that you really know them. To judge them after seeing them again after over 2 years has gone by , you no longer actually really know them. You now only know them as they use to be.

To judge is almost as bad as making a statement about them really living the dream. They were 10 years ago when you last spoke or saw them. They have been really avoiding you for some reason. Provide the encouragement to give that person or people the courage to get out there and search, find and acquire their dream(s). Rather than cutting others down find a way to lift them up!

I am tired of over hearing conversations on how people are so envious and jealous of others that they would rather discredit them than applaud them. How sad it is when I need to walk away from over hearing, not participating, over hearing a horrible bashing conversation. Take the lead and correct the person, ask them, "are you jealous?" I'm sure you'll get a response, not to shocking, as they look at you with the look of, "are you kidding me, you did not just ask that" look. My reply......the look of oh ya I did, followed with, "so how do you know them?"

It is the opinion of this award winning mentor, motivator, speaker, writer, HRM and HR Law certificate holder, charity supporter, community and beyond advocator that we really need to all find the courage to follow and live what we believe is OUR dream(s)!

Just for the record, my dream, I AM living it,,,,,,,Women really DO exist in the boardroom. We are respected senior C level executives and are the best advice providers around, or others wouldn't be asking us. That is MY dream, I am living it and still going after more!