Live Your Life for You

In the death care industry, educating the public is one of the responsibilities of an agent. Every generation of people will have different acceptance towards this topic.

Younger generation from age 20 to 40 plus will most likely focus on their career and starting their own family, hence pre-planning never comes across their mind.

As for the older generation, aged 50 and above, they will start to think about it but do not dare to take any actions, because there are still many things or goals to achieve in life.

The most common answers that were used were "I don't want to talk about it first", "I am 'Pantang' about all these death topics", "It is bad luck to talk about death".

I can understand and empathies with these feelings. Because I used to have such reactions.

However in reality, everyone cannot escape the journey of life and we have no control of our life or death.

But, have you ever wondered 'What happens after your funeral?'

For starters, the one you loved will definitely cry. But after the funeral the crying will stop.

Your family will start to make arrangements to proceed their life back as usual. Your relatives will most likely pay their last respect only for a night.

Some can't make it. So they wire transfer money to your family members to ease their financial burden.

Someone in your family will start an argument because they have contributed more financially to support the funeral.

Your friends and colleagues will most likely visit you during your funeral. They will mourn together with your loved one, for a moment during the funeral, but soon after they will continue back with their daily routine.

Some people that you know personally, will call your family to send their condolences. Some of your friends don't even know of your departure.

The company you worked for, they will start to find a replacement for your position. At most they will mourn your departure by holding a silent mourning for 1 minute as a sign of respect.??

Once in a while, maybe your phone will still ring from someone who did not know you had died.

Traffic will still be the same. The coffee shop at the corner will still operate as usual.

In a few months, your family will be watching Netflix, your spouse will be watching comedy, and they will be laughing.

On the first year of your anniversary, all your family members will be there to remember you. After that, the years that follow, maybe some will come and some will be absent.

You will be forgotten at an astonishing pace. Everyone's life will go back to normal.

As years go by, there will be very few people left to remember you. As Keanu Reeves said "I know the one who loved us, will miss us".

So now, know this. If people can forget you so easily, ask yourself, "who are you living your life for?"

You spend your whole life worrying what other people think about you. But in reality,?

THEY DON’T, and THEY WON’T.

So, live your life for you. Treat yourself better. Love your spouse and family more. Spend more time creating wonderful memories.

“Live Your Life For You!”