Live a Better Live by Learning to Say No

Live a Better Live by Learning to Say No

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In today’s newsletter, I’m sharing some thoughts about something many of us struggle with – saying no.

For many of us, it's very difficult to say no. But even harder is living the life you don't want to lead because you can’t say no. Here are the tips I've used and see how you can incorporate them into your life.

1.    Recognize the legitimacy of saying no.  When we think about saying no, we're often focused on how others will react or feel. But how about you? If you say yes to everything and everyone, you'll end up without the time or energy to do what you really love to do. So try to think about saying no in different terms: as saying "yes" to other commitments you really care about.

2.     Find the right words. Sometimes what holds us back is not having the right words. So, see if you can develop a repertoire of ways to say no that work for you. For example: "I really appreciate you thinking of me, but I've just got too much on my plate right now" or "Thank you so much for the invitation. I would love to do it/serve/get involved, but I just can't right now. I hope you will think of me again" or, simply, "I'm just not able to do this right now, but thanks so much."

3.    Don’t respond immediately. In the heat of the moment, it's especially difficult to say no. So instead of having timing work against you, make time your friend. Don't answer right away. Buy yourself time to think about the request by thanking them for the opportunity, requesting some time to think about it, and even perhaps proposing a specific time to get back to them.

Saying no is hard to do. But so too is burdening yourself with tasks and activities that you don't really have your heart in.

Janet Crum

Dean of Library Services, Fresno State University

4 年

Wonderful advice! I especially love, "think about saying no in different terms:?as saying 'yes' to other commitments you really care about." This kind of reframing can be so powerful.

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Amit Kumar Sharma

BD | ESG | HSE | Circular Economy | Sustainability | O&M

4 年

Thanks for sharing, it really works.

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Christine Chuah

Business Writing Coach I Instructional Designer I Entrepreneur

4 年

Yes, I need to remember Point #3 first, then Point #2! Thank you for the framework to make it easier to say no.

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Abraham Darko Bartels

Assistant Quality Control Manager (GAPFA)||Quality Assurance|| Regulatory Affairs||Research Assistant (NMIMR)||Microbiologist||(NMIMR)||Biotechnologist||Molecular Biologist||Tutor||Co-founder of Dolphin Tech.

4 年

It is true.. being yourself preserve your integrity and can help us to make good decision in terms of saying No or Yes. Thanks for reminding us.

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