Listen like others love to speak to you

I am a good listener, in fact if anything, a listener to a fault. What I mean is, I listen to everything, even when I shouldn’t be listening. I am constantly while listening trying to figure out what is underlying the feelings and motivations of the person speaking, as well as trying to determine if what they are saying is the truth or a lie. My inbred listening habit has gotten to the point of annoyance, in fact. Conversely, I am also just as capable of tuning someone out entirely. I have finally started to ask people to please say my name first if they are talking to me, otherwise I will assume they are not talking to me, and I will tune them out. This is my self-preservation mode.

When I am working (or reading, whatever), I want to be able to tune everyone out so I can concentrate on what I’m doing. I think it’s really rude when someone starts talking to me but does not indicate clearly to me that they are talking to me. Say my name first! Get in the habit! If you don’t, you’ll just have to repeat yourself, because I wasn’t listening to anything you said. This is one of the most crucial, but basic rules of communication. Too many people talk like this: “What did you think of that, Bob?” When they should be talking like this: “Bob, what did you think of that?” Bob didn’t hear a thing until he heard his name. Get it?

Stop wasting your time and everyone else’s time by not letting them know you are talking to them. Now you’ll have to repeat yourself. This does not necessarily apply if you are the only 2 people in the room, of course. I have worked with people who pretty consistently talk to themselves out loud. For a while I didn’t know if they were talking to me or not. I am pretty tired of asking people, “Are you talking to me?” I finally told one person, “I’m going to tune you out and assume you’re talking to yourself unless you say my name and let me know you’re talking to me, OK? I need to focus on what I’m doing here.” Get a clue, people! Make yourself clear!

By getting into this habit, you will gain more respect from people simply for addressing them directly and remembering their name. It will also help you to remember everyone’s name, which is also a valuable skill to have. We all guys are agree, that we are living a fast, busy and a kind of crazy live. Isn't it? So, if someone answer to the question with yes, deep in his great and good soul is lying, at least so!! Believe me! So this was just an educated suggestion. Now for myself. I listen extremely carefully, when the conversation is about my job, my money, my family and everything else connected to these.

Even when we speak about un interesting stuff for the moment, if I think it's going to be important in the future I am going to be a great listener. But if I decide it's not point of interest I just use to play and act interested, but actually I don't listen st all. Maybe it's a mistake or disrespectful, but everyone has priorities. Isn't it? Do you ever know how the humans brain works? It's as a computer or maybe as Android. Every day your Android (or iPhone maybe the similar way) is offering to clean your device from average 1 to 2 GB info, which is completely unnecessary and un useful. OK, then!

Don't be surprised! Computers are quite stupid machines! They haven't got abilities to create and think on their own! Whiteout Operation Systems ( Android, iOS, WINDOWS, VISTA or something else(Excuse me!!!!)) this extremely powerful and fast machines are bloody big piles of cables, metals and plastic. That's why your still (for now) human's brain is able to decide such important issues even without asking anyone, even you! Let's say something about this article, if you read and like so much! Cheers!