List of life problems and solutions

Although in many instances it may not feel so [it could actually be a real bad thing to happen] – our day to day impediments, hurdles barriers are ALL GREAT OPPORTUNITIES as well signs that we need to learn, relearn and unlearn to cope AND PROSPER, Grow and Succeed.

Our Perception of Obstacles actually decides whether during our roughest paths and patches -we feel PAIN/Hopelessness/Dejection OR we accept that the time is real tough but have the hopes that we are going to overcome these.

When obstacles come unexpectedly - We just freeze and have absolutely no idea what to do.

This paralysis may seem unhelpful at first - However, it actually gives us a moment ponder and think through our circumstances in optimal ways – if only we have trained and practice enough on How to Handle The Unexpected* .

After sometime when our brain starts to feel and think – then we need to ask few questions to gain clarity and understand our problem from different perspectives*.

With more clarity comes greater insight and understanding which would help you to be in more resourceful* state.

In this articles we have covered -  5 Types of challenges, The 21 common problems we face, the 12 mental and emotional conditioning steps, 75 ways on how to solve how to solve and the 18 questions to ask for gaining clarity and understand the problem fully plus 12 personal issues which are usually the reason for many problems faced by us.

Our challenges are of the following types – that we must deal with and solve – in order for us to live contended life

1.      Problems related to our own lacunae, e.g., The ones which are within our control

I.                  Lack of Right Skills*, Knowledge, Abilities, Habits, Attitudes*, Competencies and Behaviors – these mostly can be learned [but if we don't identify what is stopping us AND learn – then we are likely to remain in a life full of jealousies a, envies and wishful thinking]

II.               The problems which keeps spiraling out of our control – because we don't act, inculcate and implement the aforesaid

2.     Problems which comes due to What other people do – which impacts us directly

3.     The External Factors - Technological Changes, Political Changes, Environmental Changes Situations etc – in these types of situations we need to learn how to bounce-back*

To handle those situations - Which are not in our Area of Control* - we need only to identify what is possible in our current impossible-zone and slowly try to expand our area of influence

List of 21 common problems we have in life – it is a indicative list – please add your own, if it does not have what is uniquely Yours.

1.      Managing Our Emotions in challenging moments – so as not to react but respond

2.     Handling Toxic and difficult people* - all of us would face them in every aspects of life[including having difficult children, spouses etc]

3.     Unfairness of life

4.     Our job - Bad colleagues, Arrogant boss, Long hours

5.     We – Ourselves => Pushing ourselves*, being disciplined, ditching quick gratification in favor of ling-term growth, cutting corners/taking-shortcuts to sticking with values that gives you all types of problems etc etc

6.     Our disappointments – in jobs, in our all-important relationships, from our expectations

7.     Expected crises and setbacks – financial, professional, health, career, through our own kid's/parent's/sibling's

8.    Handling our fears*, anxieties*, resistance to change* etc

9.     Finding Inner Peace and being happy and satisfied

10. Improve Our Career and Job-Situation

11.  Eliminate Negativity

12. Finding and Living Our Passion*

13. Increase Self Esteem / Self-Confidence*

14. Facing criticism*, adversity* etc

15. Finding meaning* in what we are doing

16. Making ourselves feel worthy

17.  Breaking monotony – making life exciting

18. Balancing between your drams and your responsibilities

19. Handling you shame, guilt*, regrets*

20. Letting Go*

21. What other think* of us

The mental and emotional conditioning needed to face life's challenges

1.      Learning to face Reality - So often we turn away from life rather than toward it that We become masters of avoidance

2.     Learning Accepting Your Life as It Is - Rather than – fighting with it – although Sometimes this too is needed but no-one can be in this state for long and doesn't get burned out completely

3.     Taking life as it comes to us — focusing on actions that are needed to be take on day to day basis

4.     Realize that it is okay to feel pain, let yourself feel the feelings of being sad, angry or any other emotion

5.     Understand that Your feelings and emotions* are not under your control and can be triggered by other people/situations/circumstances – But you can't stay in them for – you have learn how to handle your emotions*

6.     Understand that everyone struggles and face defeats and failures – many times bigger than ours defeats and failures

7.     Realize that in life our focus is only on our own challenges – and that makes feel – we are the only one. Remember everyone goes through their own hell – only thing that differs in the degree of catastrophe they face

8.    Even though we are capable of doing and accomplishing many big-feats – all of us need to reach out for help, support, guidance from others.

9.     There is no shame in asking for help – even going for professional counseling

10. Accept support -Asking for help can be hard, and accepting it even harder

11.  Help others - Look for someone to help and happiness will find you

12. Learn to Enjoy - The small things of life as well as pain

75 Strategies to transit through our Struggles

Many of the following [especially the *marked ones] may sound like PREACHING but they NOT – they are just the topic for which there are detailed Do-it-Yourself Tips given in separate article in success unlimited mantra's "from the heart of Subhashis".

1.      Take Your Time – unless it is one of those time when speed matters - By being in a hurry, we actually thwart our own success, We make more mistakes, We cut corners and pay for them later – instead – the Slow, disciplined, incremental growth is the kind of approach that leads to lasting change.

2.     Practice Identifying blessing in your life - It is easy to count our troubles rather than our blessings. A change in perspective can make all the difference. Recognizing the good and receiving it with gratitude is a recipe for emotional health and well-being.

3.     Allow yourself to feel the pain, the sadness, the frustrations, the anguish Fully – then once you get out of the all-is-lost mindset => slowly get your life back on track

4.     Suppressing, ignoring, avoiding our feelings not only is most detrimental but it also drains us of the psychological energy that makes life worth living.

5.     Accept Success and Failure as Part of Life’s Journey

6.     The dynamic process of life—trying, succeeding, failing, and trying again—is the only way to develop lasting confidence in ourselves.

7.     We learn through experience that we can both succeed and recover from failure. We also learn to be humble and so develop a view of ourselves

8.    Nurture Your Loving Relationships*

9.     It is easy to neglect what matters the most: our relationships with those we love

10. These relationships don’t just happen magically; they grow and are sustained through attentive care and hard work. Mature love—whether in marriage, family relationships, or friendships—is a dynamic, living experience.

11.  Learn to MANAGE STRESS* effectively

12. Change your emotional state by changing your physical state AND my taking actions – even if they mean going on a run in the fast

13. Face fear* head on

14. Learn to handle conflicts* - inner as well as with other people and situations 

15. Identify Your passions – revisit and make them as per who you want to be today – and then be in the action state  - for full read Problems in Life and Their Solutions in success unlimited mantra Blog section - from the heart of Subhashis