Light it Up and Let it Go

Hey did you know there's a podcast with the same name as this newsletter? WHAT?! Yes!

Every week, you can hear stories from people who were saying everything's fine here, all while a dumpster fire was raging in the background.

On this week's show, I am chatting with Christina Robinson Race about how her traumatic childhood in a tight-lipped Evangelical Christian household filled with secrets, abuse, and conditional love affected the way she raised her children. We talk about surrounding yourself with the kind of people you’d like to become, managing your professional reputation, and always finding the silver lining. Plus Christina shares a bit about how much her mom loves shopping at Target.

It's an awesome episode and I encourage you to listen to the whole episode.

Fun fact: I tend to listen to podcasts at 1.5 speed. Try it. You may never listen at normal speed again. ??

Here are the key takeaways.

1.?????You have a choice when it comes to trauma and abuse. Ok, sure, maybe not when it's actually happening, especially if you were a child. However, you can now choose to continue the cycle or break the cycle. Christina chose the latter because she didn’t want her children to go through what she did.

2.?????When you want to be amazing, surround yourself with amazing people. This is something you can consciously do. We talked about this concept in Angela Loughridge’s and Michelle Berndt’s episodes. You may have heard the Jim Rohn quote that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Your way of thinking, your self-esteem, and your decisions are all greatly influenced by your environment.

3.?????Gratitude and positivity go together. When you take a positive attitude and find gratitude for what comes into your life, it becomes a joyful circle. Expect and know that things are going to work out. Because they always do. Some people will criticize this philosophy and say it’s not grounded in reality. But taking a positive approach to life doesn’t mean you’re not SEEING things that aren’t going well, you’re simply not dwelling on them. You have control over how you choose to see the world.

4.?????There’s no time for holding grudges. C'mon now. You know life is short! Let it go and move on. You may certainly want to be wary of people who didn’t treat you well. AND at the same time, you can let go of the anger and resentment because you don’t need that kind of negativity in your mind or body. I love Christina’s My Last F*ck candle. She said she got it on Etsy. I did a search and there are a bunch of vendors selling them there.

5.?????Only YOU can be you. Yeah, this seems like it would be obvious, but we all need a reminder from time to time. You are the center of your own movie. Stop living in the shadow of or at the mercy of someone else. The people you’re working so hard to please, are never going to care about you as much as YOU need to care about you.?

Got a story to share, message me! I want to hear it.