A Light Unto Your Path

"A wise person speaks carefully and with truth, for every word that passes between one's teeth is meant for something." — Molefi Kete Asante

A while ago, I was talking to a friend about my goals and aspirations. As I shared my frustration about how slowly things seemed to be moving, he stopped me. "This doesn’t sound like you," he said. "You’re usually so upbeat and enthusiastic, but listening to you now is actually bringing me down."

Hearing those words was a bit of a wake-up call. I realized he was right—I’d been caught in a cycle of self-criticism. I’d become so focused on what I hadn’t achieved and the gap between where I was and where I wanted to be that I’d forgotten how easily my own negative thoughts could demotivate me. Instead of appreciating what I had, I was letting the weight of unmet expectations drag me down.

The worst part was that this habit of self-criticism was seeping into my interactions with others. The more I criticized myself, the more I found fault in those around me. I’d become a walking, breathing critique machine. I hadn’t even noticed how deeply this negativity had taken root.

Later that day, I reflected on my friend’s words, feeling distant and a little disappointed in myself. That evening, my daughter Lauren unknowingly drove the point home. As we were talking about some people we knew, I caught myself nitpicking their flaws. She looked at me with her innocent eyes and asked, "Dad, why are you being so critical?"

That question stung because, once again, I was faced with the truth. My negativity was apparent, even to my child. This realization prompted me to ask myself tough questions: “Why hadn’t I noticed this shift in myself?” “Why was I so critical?” Acknowledging this pattern was uncomfortable, but essential, as it marked the first step toward change.

Have you ever noticed how much power lies in the words we use every day? Around the world, people are shaping their lives, relationships, and dreams with the words they speak. Our words can either build or destroy our dreams. This concept isn’t new. From the English novelist Edward George Bulwer-Lytton’s famous line, “The pen is mightier than the sword,” to the Bible’s words, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and light unto my path,” words have been recognized throughout history as tools that create worlds.

So, what kind of world do you want to create? Do you want more compassion, joy, or peace? Do you want to strengthen relationships or inspire those around you? Do you need to hear encouragement from your own lips? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, remember that the power to create this change lies within us. We are responsible for our successes and setbacks, and our words play a critical role in shaping them.

This week, let’s pay attention to the words we use in conversations with ourselves and others. Recognize the ones that bring joy and share them generously, while eliminating those that harm our relationships. Doing this will not only improve our outlook but also reduce stress and build a brighter path forward.

Make this your best week ever!

Make an Impact!

Action Points:

1. Practice Self-Awareness in Conversations: Be mindful of the language you use, especially in self-talk. Notice if it leans towards criticism or encouragement, and adjust accordingly.
2. Set an Intentional “Word Filter”: Consciously choose words that promote positivity and growth, especially when discussing your goals and relationships.
3. Share Positive Words with Others: Bring uplifting language into your interactions, helping to build a positive environment for yourself and those around you.

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