Lifestyle(s)- the Push and Pull of Life

We can't do it all.

Are you pushing your life in a specific direction while life pulls you down a different path?

I call this the "push and pull of life."

We Push Ourselves

We all have a craving to develop.

We set goals to progress from a current state to the desired state.

However, our aspirations are not who we are; instead, they are who we wish to become.

Life Pulls Us

Our commitments obligate our actions.

Look at your life right now. What are you committed to, and how do those commitments pull you closer to (or further) from your aspirations?

Unfortunately we spend too much time settings goals and not enough time refining our values.

Values are the playing-field

Two weeks ago, I wrote about "Four Kinds of Values That Shape Decision Making." TL;DR- unlike aspirations, your intrinsic values are innate to you?and are refined over time. Building from that, your values set a playing field (or boundary) to keep your goals and commitments in check. Hello, sanity!

Said another way, your lifestyle equals the difference between your values and the sum of your goals and commitments.

Lifestyle = Values - (Goals + Commitments)

My Lifestyle for this Week

As an example, here is how you can plug in your variables to this formula and quantify your lifestyle for this week.

Without sharing too many details, it would look something like this:

• My Value(s)= (Being a supportive Husband/Father + having zeal + authenticity)
• My Goal(s)= Not drop the ball at work while being a solo dad this week while Tambre travels to Qatar for a BIG tournament.
• My Commitment(s)= (Work + Family + Community + Worship (WFCW))

My Lifestyle = (Supportive +authentic Husband/Father)-(Not dropping the ball + WFCW)

My lifestyle this week is being an all-in dad while combating staying ahead at work, and the commitments I have outside of work.

Quantified! I will reflect on this tonight and anticipate (plan) the obstacles that will come from this kind of lifestyle. NOW IT'S YOUR TURN; give this a shot and tell me what your lifestyle will look like this week.

Big news- See you in Doha! ??

Tambre is traveling this week to Doha, Qatar, for another Beach Volleyball World Tour event (link below in the tweet). They play this Thursday, Cinco de Mayo!

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