Life’s Simple Rule: Surround Yourself with Givers, Not Takers

Read time 3 minutes - November 11, 2024 | Read on my website

Welcome to 1-2-3 Inner Game, your weekly hit of actionable strategies to achieve a high-performing, healthy, and thriving life.

Today's Highlights

• The Two Types of Discomfort
• 1-2-3 Inner-Game
• How to Live Forever
• Surround Yourself with Givers, not Takers
• Making Decisions vs. Wise Choices
• Stop Comparing Yourself

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Let’s keep this real simple. There are two types of discomfort:

1. The kind where you hide and stay stuck.
2. The kind where you grow and expand.

I’m all-in on the second one. Why? Because growth isn’t about fixing something broken—it’s about leveling up because you want to. Because it’s exciting. Because it makes you feel alive.

Yeah, you’ll trip up, make some mistakes, hit a few walls. But you’ll also rack up the wins. If you’re game to sit in that discomfort, that’s where you start seeing what you’re really made of.

And trust me—there’s no number that can measure that kind of potential.

Here's Some Inner Game Wisdom to Chew on This Week

1 quote

"If you’re thinking without writing, you only think you’re thinking." -

- Leslie Lamport

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2 questions (and answers from me)

#1 - Q: How do I prioritize when everything feels urgent?

A: When everything feels urgent, almost nothing actually is. Start by asking, “What moves the needle the most?” If it doesn’t directly impact growth, revenue, or your most crucial goal, it’s not urgent. Rank tasks by impact, knock out the big stuff, and let the minor fires burn if you have to. Get comfortable saying no—because every “yes” to the small stuff is a “no” to what really matters.

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#2 - Q: How do I prioritize when everything feels urgent?

A: When everything feels urgent, almost nothing actually is. Start by asking, “What moves the needle the most?” If it doesn’t directly impact growth, revenue, or your most crucial goal, it’s not urgent. Rank tasks by impact, knock out the big stuff, and let the minor fires burn if you have to. Get comfortable saying no—because every “yes” to the small stuff is a “no” to what really matters.

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3 insights

• When you look back, it’s not the dumb stuff you did that’ll haunt you—it’s the things you didn’t do. Actions can be messy, even stupid sometimes, but it’s the moments you held back, the chances you didn’t take, that bring the real regret.

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• When you don’t know what matters most, everything feels like it could be important. But here’s the thing: the best lives aren’t built on ‘whatever makes sense in the moment.’ They’re built on purpose and knowing what you’re really chasing.

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• You can’t live a bigger life until you can see it first. It’s simple—if you can’t picture it, you’ll never build it.

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Life’s Simple Rule: Surround Yourself with Givers, Not Takers

I’ve got one rule: leave people better than you found them.

Simple as that.

How do I decide who to keep in my life? I look at how they treat people who can’t give them anything in return.

Real character shows up when no one’s watching. Success makes it easy for people to start acting entitled—yelling at staff, losing their manners, skipping the ‘thank yous.’ That’s not my crowd.

I watch behavior.

The people I want around me?

They’re givers.

They’re the ones who leave you feeling charged up, not drained.

Here’s the deal: protect what matters—your energy, your focus, your confidence. And remember, some games in life?

The only way to win is not to play.

If something’s off in your business or with the people you’re around, take a page from Gandhi: Be the change you want to see.

Start there, and watch everything else follow.

Let’s face it—decision fatigue is real. The more choices you make, the faster your ‘smart decision juice’ runs out.

So what’s the hack?

Instead of making a hundred tiny choices, make one big one that turns into a domino effect of smart moves. Less thinking, more doing. Set yourself up to win automatically.

Look, comparing yourself to others is like running a race on a treadmill. You’re sweating, going nowhere, and feeling worse by the end. Here’s the truth: everyone’s playing their own game with their own set of rules. The only person worth competing with? You from yesterday. Focus on beating that guy, and watch how everything else starts to click. Comparison’s a trap; progress is the real flex.

Here’s a rundown of some cool stuff I’ve been diving into this week.

?? The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows by John Koenig

?? The Richest Person in the World in Every Decade

I'm rooting for you to continue crushing it!

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