The life and soul of the party

The life and soul of the party

Imagine you get invited to a party where some of the greatest, most inspirational people in business will be gathered.

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You arrive there, and the venue is PACKED.

People darting around all over the place, different conversations happening, ideas flowing - some of which you don't really understand but you're so taken in by the place and the people gathered in it, you just stand there, slack jawed and saying nothing.

You wander off to get some canapes and decide to walk up to another attendee who, like you looks a little lost and out of place.

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Before he has had chance to acknowledge you, you're in his face, practically shouting at him about your business and asking if he could jump on a call with you for 15 minutes to discuss his business goals.


So, after brushing away the crumbs of vol au vents you've spat on his jacket, he turns around and walks away, mumbling something unseemly about you under his breath.

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Undeterred you spy someone else stood on their own and, yet again, you bleat onto her about yourself and how wonderful your business is but, surprise surprise, she's not interested and again, walks away, possibly to tell another guest about this weirdo that's harassing people at the the party.

And then you do this another 400 times before a load of guests complain about you and you're unceremoniously thrown out of the venue.

But, as unrealistic as this may seem, this is EXACTLY what thousands of people are doing EVERY DAY on Linkedin - albeit without the spitting of food.

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Turning up to the party and alienating people by spending NO time thinking about the needs and interests of the other guests and ALL their time boring them by making it all ME, ME, ME

Starting conversations by trying to sell to them the second they first meet.

Pushing for calls, meetings and webinars way before any kind of rapport and trust has been built.

And all that's going to happen is - they'll annoy the other guests AND get thrown out of the venue.

And rightly so!

Don't be that person. Join in conversations, do stuff that's going to make people happy rather than annoy them.

And DON'T spit vol au vents at people when you speak!


Dan Smith

Ingenius

www.weareingenius.com



Steve Ponton

Quantum Technology ● Cryogenics Solutions ● Space and Defence ● 5G/6G Telecommunications ● Antenna Technology ● Research and Development ● Test Equipment ● Aerospace ● Edinburgh ● UK

5 年

It still surprises me how many people still conduct themselves in this way. It's also surprising when people simply like posts and comment with a few default phrases. You don't then know if they have read and understood the content.

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JulieAnne Hughes

Stopping damages for industries who export worldwide

5 年

Very true!

Amanda S.

Administration Assistant @ Dri Now Central | BICS Level 1 & 2

5 年

Agree!

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