Life is a set of surprises

We are one step away from achieving it, we must do it!

Life is a set of surprises, some are good others are not, we have all had disasters, I have gone through difficult times, and what happened? We are here, right? We are not survivors at all, we are the ones who adapt more quickly to changes, today we will talk about ourselves. How do we think? How do we release that thought? Clearly limiting, that thought that does not allow us to go further.

For this purpose I will apply it to those who fortunately have a leadership position, let's see, there are articles on leadership in many of its varieties, there are courses that encourage you to eat the world as a leader, and as a balloon little by little it is deflating, of course we are all different, and we take advantage of it in different ways, I have been writing about it for years and in this period I have had the opportunity to see the transformation of possessive leadership to inclusiveness, in the same way transformative leadership that creates leaders, let me tell you that I feel lucky In this sense, many of the people with whom I had the opportunity to work have exceeded their expectations and are already in the process of creating the next generation of leaders in information technology and other fields.

Break the scheme, you have to be disruptive

For years, I observed the leaders and in many of them they told us to adjust to certain rules and conditions to succeed, indeed there were those who achieved success, however, there were many, many, but many who did not, why? Well, not all We are the same, we think and feel differently, so I always recommend that you be authentic, especially if you are undergoing transformation and with the potential to be an icon or leader who marks a change. Well, I always tell you the little people who follow me, something similar to this:

"Let's see guys, why do the same thing and we don't get progress? Hell, why don't we look for variants? With how interesting we could be, and what do we do? Otherwise, we spend our lives trying to be normal”, wow today we are going to be different, today we will achieve our goals.

Indeed, it is so, sadly, normally we seek acceptance and merit, it is also true that many of us do it unconsciously, well, even when it is hard, I know that normally we drown out the fear of rejection, and we take refuge in silence, even if it hurts to know, I know people who accept it and stay like that, no matter how hard you try to get that person back, you can't, because they don't want to leave their comfort zone.

This is ingrained custom, they instil in us that to be normal we have to limit, twist and gag our being, it has been shown that our environment reminds us that to be normal we can only use a small percentage of our full potential and silence the rest.

Wow, what a waste!

In my experience I have verified that it is precisely this point of knowledge about oneself, what makes us different, and it is precisely where we add value, so our diversity is the key that unlocks the impact we leave on those around us, however :

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• Why do we limit it?
• Why do we strive to be the flattest, most insignificant version of everything we could be?
• Why do we live in a normative culture that rewards the homogeneous and punishes the diverse?

Apart from exceptions to the case, it has been seen that shortly after birth we learn not to stand out too much, they teach us to control and repress ourselves to fit into the mould of a good daughter or a good son, we minimize our potential to fit through the narrow tunnel of the educational process and that say of the social sphere that also puts us in a pre-established box.

We can feign dementia and continue to survive comfortably, however remember that many of us were taught and reinforced at every step what proportions our bodies needed to be in to be acceptable, and what skin tone, sexual orientation, beliefs, and abilities. They were the ideals to deserve respect and thus consider yourself successful, this is a fallacy.

What do I tell you! Unfortunately, this is how our brain reacts, in the mission of ensuring your survival, it did everything possible to cut and twist you until you entered what the culture in which you live considers normal.

Let's reflect a little and, with them, we will know how to ask ourselves the following question:

Do we know what happens?

The reality is that what is normal is not necessarily good, nor fair, nor productive, nor true, which often plunges us into a mediocrity of conformism that some of us never get out of, because we never try.

If you realize that something is normal, it only means that it is statistically relevant and culturally acceptable, well, it is just that! Today for millions of people it is normal for an 8-year-old boy to carry a Kalashnikov AK-47 and go to the war.

In many, many places it is normal for a single person to have the unilateral and absolute power to decide the conditions and the future of the lives of millions of people, and they accept it without saying more, they think, here, and now it is normal that your gender determine the salary you receive for the same work, of course it annoys me that they are imposed, that the culture does not see and say that it is normal to traffic people and sell them as sexual products.

The culture in which you live has been penalizing the expression of your potential since you were born, what I am telling you is not to make us rebellious and send everything to the devil and go against everything and everyone, that is not the objective, my objective is that you know yourself and free your thinking that will increase your potential and be a better person.

The normality that they impose on us is not fair, it is not good, and it is not productive for you or for anyone else. In other articles I have told you about the potential that we all have, and I have told you that our potential is the set of abilities, talents and abilities that we are not yet using to create, innovate or materialize our ideas.

?“Your potential is the key to an extraordinary life, do it! The time has come for your potential to stop being limited by what culture does generation after generation, what it imposes on us as a norm and considers it possible and, therefore, therefore acceptable."

Let's not:

• What we all know limits our potential.
• The trap of the culture or habit of the effort, trap the potential.

Everyone, you and I have a mission:

Unlock our potential to manifest the maximum expression of our being.

?If everything is very nice up to here, but:

What potential?

There is always a "but", I will tell you it is the set of your abilities, talents and abilities that we are not yet using to materialize and create our ideas, personally I have always considered this as the potential with which we come from the factory, hehehehe, It has been ours since we were born, and it does not fit into the moulds imposed by the normative culture in which we live and that today we have fortunately identified, which is why it weighs on us, gags and silences us, and we have also seen that it has been hidden in the depths of our to be, so that we are not seen, it is not going to be that someone realizes that we are not normal and rejects us.

Learn this very well, you and I have the power to deactivate the beliefs that limit the expression of who we are, that's right, you and I have the power to develop our potential and really begin to add value to those around us.

How do you it?

Well, being disciplined, let's start with the first limitation of potential, the culture of effort:

• "You have to work. Nobody gives away anything."
• "You have to work hard to get what you want."
• "Look at her, she's super responsible and hard-working, she hasn't stopped studying all afternoon."

Very soon we learn that the effort is admirable, we celebrate the results that we have achieved with time, sweat and tears, and others will almost be ashamed to tell the things that we have achieved almost without effort, this should not be the case, they also count.

What is the consequence of this?

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That individually and socially we detract from the merit and value of things that come easily and that we do with pleasure, and it turns out that these are precisely natural and necessary expressions of our potential, therefore, we must appreciate ourselves more intensely.

Answer the following questions:

• Who would you be today if when you were little, if when you were little, you had been admired and valued for all those things that come naturally to you?
• Who would you be today if you didn't spend your whole life striving to perfect and master the things that cost you the most?
• Who would you be today if you had prioritized the expression and development of your natural talents?

Communicate, organize, unite, paint, structure, unite, entertain, devise, create, materialize, detonate or transmit, as you see, our potentials are multiple and in each person they are expressed in a unique and extraordinary combination differently.

The culture of effort is based on the fact that just as we are, how great we are imperfect, however, what happens, to deserve the respect, recognition and admiration of the people around us, we have to strive to develop the parts that we are missing to fit into the mould and amputate the ones that are left over, sparks we were doing so well!

Luckily the potential is not amputated, it is impossible, everything you have to contribute is still there, gagged and subject, however, it is waiting for the moment when you prioritize your physical, mental and emotional well-being and start giving the necessary steps to release it.

The penalty of failure muzzles the potential

It's scary to be wrong, right? That fear that invariably turns into terror, it's as if being wrong were confirmation that deep down we're not as bright as people think, and they tell us:

"I told you" they argue, "I already knew" and that tears, hurts you.

Making mistakes is penalized and a lot, I witnessed that in childhood mistakes triggered shouting and punishment and as we get older things do not improve, for example: in the vast majority of organization mistakes are penalized and outside of companies we are limited by dreams with the fear of failure.

• What will happen if I'm wrong?
• What will they think of me if it goes wrong?
• What will people say if I fail?

Any deviation from the expectations of others is paid for with rejection, and there, right there we have the second cultural limitation to the development of our innate potential, the expression of potential requires a culture that tolerates divergent results.

When we penalize failure, we penalize any attempt to explore and develop the latent potential of people and organizations, in many places there is no option to be wrong, not why you want it to be like that, but they stop you, because to try new things there has to be space so that things turn out differently.

The third thing that must be deactivated in order to create, innovate and explore is the fear of failure. Many experts tell us that this is one of the things that would ideally be resolved from outside, but it is not this way. Wouldn't it be great to be in an organization or environment that rewarded us for exploring new things? Imagine a site that supported trying to do things differently and deliver results, let's think that in this way the innovative culture would not really be so scarce.

Where innovation is implemented, it is disruptive, because the physical, mental and emotional space is created for people to develop their potential without limits.

And what can you do if where you are now being wrong is penalized?

A lot

Reality is transformed by doing the inner work of taking the first step.

What would you do today if you took all the weight off the opinion of the people around you?

Imagine for a moment that everything you do in the next 24 hours is going to have no consequences, that tomorrow at this time the whole world is going to completely forget about everything you do, say or be:

• What would you try today?
• Where might this step take you?
• And if you do it for real?

The opinion of others is not important to develop yourself, your fear of rejection is natural, it is biological, and it is written by epigenetics that is in fire in your brain, but you have the power in the prefrontal cortex to deactivate it.

Do you know what usually happens when you deactivate in fear of rejection?

You have been seen to access opportunities that you have been hiding from.

Yes, there will probably be people who get upset, who laugh and until they end up moving away, there will be those who treat me like crazy or different, however, it moves, he said: Galileo Galilei, for my part, I support you, that in what you have thought, what has come to your head is worth trying:

You know why?

Because nothing, absolutely nothing, is more important than the potential value you have waiting for you.

The development of your potential will always be a contribution to elevate your environment

To start developing our potential we have to deactivate the fear of rejection, we have already seen that, so, to take the step of materializing the maximum expression of our being, we have to stop making an effort to repress ourselves and admire, value and respect the things that give us come out easy and enjoy it.

Identifying our potential and starting to use it requires us to turn off the autopilot, stop reacting and start acting with intention, freedom and awareness, I'm sure it's not easy, because stopping reacting requires the daily conscious effort to go against automated behaviours.

Do you know why it's worth it?

Because we provide true value from everything that does not fit into the model, from what society rewards, I spent years, practically all my life making an effort and I continue to do so because that is my culture to be different and add value.

Operating from cultural beliefs, living on autopilot doing everything possible to avoid rejection was limiting the potential value I could bring to the world, by being normal I was blocking the transformative power of my innate potential.

My mould of perfection excluded most of the things that are innate to me and I had to work very hard to enter and stay inside, being just one more hurt me, it hurt so much that my physical, mental and emotional well-being came to affect me, how was it possible that with how hard he was working he wasn't creating an impact?

I saw it in a colleague who constantly told me, how is it possible that with everything I had done to be perfect, I am not happy? What culture allowed me?

With great sadness, there came a point in which he told me, I realized that the times that I had done the most damage to other people had been from my normality, for example: being normally dry and conservative, hey Rubén, being normal makes us live in passing, leaving no trace other than the image that we project inwards and outwards fades, tell him then, you must little, by little to be yourself, know yourself as a person and know your scope without limitations, build your image, be you herself with all your abilities activated and control your limitations, however, she insisted:

What would people think of all my mistakes, my uncertainty and my failures?

If you are worried about what people say, there are more than 6 billion people that you have to show how they want to see you, who are going to judge you for your actions, to point out your faults, think about it, apart from the fact that it is something silly It is impossible to please everyone, there is only one opinion that matters, and it is yours, how you react and recover from mistakes, how you strengthen yourself and minimize uncertainty until it disappears, and you take your failures as lessons learned to improve what you do. Let it be based on your experience.

We spent time talking and right after the fear something else happened, he began to enjoy it, he told me about his achievements and how he enjoyed his work, so much so that the nerves went into the background.

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We are in this life to contribute, to be good people and help others. In my particular point of view, it is to generate an impact and that this impact detonates enough motivation for people to be confident and try again, and this time take a little more away from their innate potential.

I am convinced that by being normal we are not doing anyone any favours, it is precisely the things that make us different that add true value, the kind that becomes visible and attractive, remember you have irreplaceable value to contribute, stay with me and see forward to identify it, if you think about it, it can be done, if you do it, it is with your originality, originality makes you different and if you are different it is because you released your potential and your thought, congratulations you did it, my work is done.

?With much love and above all, take care of yourself.

?Greetings,