Life is measured by the memories we made on the way

I just decided to stop thinking about what others are doing in their lives. Once that thing is off my mind, I automatically become happy and everything which I do for myself whether it is staying all day in my pyjamas or reading my favorite books becomes pleasurable. Just stop comparing what others are doing in their lives to give them pleasure. Instead do something to focus on things that make you happier. Everyone is busy with their life and is different and hence deserves to be happy in their own way. Go follow your gut feeling.

Firstly, find a place for solitude. Maybe go for a walk to the park alone, or find an area in nature. Nature is the perfect place for healing, because it is abundant in natural life energy. Above all, it is a place where life is in a state of harmony and being, which you can tap into on your healing journey. Nature is the antithesis of that kind of empty feeling in your heart.

So go into the woods, find a place, and sit. First, focus your attention on your surroundings. See the trees. The insects. The plants. The colours. Feel the water, if there is a lake or river. Enjoy the shimmers, the textures, the life. Hear the sounds. Then breathe in the energy deep into your belly, and close your eyes.

Scan your body. At first, you might only experience incessant thoughts. But over time, those thoughts will clear, and you will move deeper. You notice shame. Anxiety. Anger. All the emotions the narcissist created in you while not allowing you to express them. Breathe deeper again. Let those emotions roam the same way the life around you is roaming. Be spacious, and let nature support you as you undergo this difficult practice. When it gets too much, and the pressure makes you want to pop, relax some more. Create more space.

Allow nobody to interfere with your time. Put your phone on silent. Gently push away the pangs of guilt you feel for being on your own. Take solace in nature. Be open to its healing qualities. When you return to your life, the madness will resume, but you will have that distant memory of what peace feels like. Practice this as often as you can. Carve out space and time in nature, and allow the healing to begin. Even though there is far less of it when you are in a relationship, there is nonetheless always time and space. It’s waiting for you.

Just hold for a moment and find out how much love are you adding to the world? How much have you raised the positive vibration of the Earth? Objectively: how many smiles you've generated, how much bird-song there is, how many green spaces and flowers there are, whether children are beaming with happiness, how many rivers are drinkable, how many historical injustices are now righted, the amount of mammalian and deep-green bio-diversity, the degree of community co-ops, the height of the dreams those around you are dreaming, a general time-horizon of eternity in continual use.

Subjective measures: the amount of gratitude or love you feel in your heart, how deeply and effortlessly you breathe, how clean you feel, and how little you crave adulterated, cooked food or any "addictive" substance. All these fulfill "higher purpose" as well as answer the issue of "how I am". But believe me about two-thirds of working professionals have this concern and want to have a practical and suitable solution for the same, which blends effortlessly with their work & lifestyle.

So, here I will be sharing two very well-researched and proven tools that have been most effective to support improved focus, clarity, and help with procrastination. Yet, before we get there, it is important to know that, any tool only works when you align your heart & mind to it, and not do it all at once, cause when we try to follow something new, and try to follow it at 100% compliance, we tend to fail or get disappointed much sooner cause our body & mind are not accustomed to it and hence doesn’t accept it, and that’s why 99% of the time we fail to follow throughout new habit making goals including exercises, gym, new skills, reading a book, doing that certification program, and many more. Like you can read while you are on a treadmill or listen to a productive podcast while exercising, this ensures two satisfaction at once, first you feel proud of completing your exercise and also reading for some time in a day. This satisfaction boosts your dopamine and also elevated the alpha brain wave, which is associated with calmness.

While you make this map, be clear what the outcomes will be and have a timeline, not too strict, have balanced & accommodative deadlines. You will see, that you are actually having fun and also will be becoming better. So, the thing is to align your heart & mind on one thing and take small steps on inclusion to your new habit or goal, in your routine, break the goal in the smallest part, and act on them, consistently. For most they know it, yet they don’t follow. Now, the tools, the first is goal mapping & the second is cognitive nutrition to fuel your action to accomplishment. Cheers!