Life is Good...

Life really does change when you do!

December through to early April were challenging times for me personally.

The Christmas period is always a tough time for me seeing as it was at Christmas that my mother passed away, and as it is a time which is family focused, it highlights, for me, the loss of my own. It’s usually a time of reflection, and memory for me.

However, as we moved into the new year, I had to contend with a new loss. The loss of a close friend. And this left me feeling a little lost myself!

The January through to early April period were also tough financially as people wrestled with the current economic climate, leaving many small businesses, like my own, struggling to just stay afloat.

The consequence of these two factors left me feeling a little drained mentally and emotionally. I felt as if I’d lost my way slightly, and my usual buoyant and optimistic self had disappeared.

This resulted in a slump in my energy. I couldn’t focus or motivate myself in the normal way and found myself analysing all that was ‘wrong’ with my life, ahead of seeing all that was ‘right’.

My normal positive and confident way of looking at life had been replaced with a more self-conscious, pessimistic view. I was aware of this and realised that it was happening for a reason.

Something had to change within me. In order to move past the feelings of self-pity and frustration I had to go deep within myself to root out the core beliefs which were leading to me feeling this way.

So, decided to take my own advice!

You see, my keynote talk, ‘Life in a Container – How to Stay Positive When Faced with Adversity’, which has been hugely successful in inspiring others, speaks directly about this very type of experience.

How can we stay focused and positive, whilst navigating through difficult and traumatic life circumstances.

My talk primarily focuses on what I did when I found myself stuck in a prison cell, having lost, no fewer than 31 loved ones; people, animals, and things such as my family home, and serving a sentence with no release date for a crime I had not committed.

It focuses on how when we stop looking outwards at all that restricts us, we start looking inward, at what we can do, in that moment, to be at our most productive. And how when we do that every day, consistently, eventually you will create the change you desire.

We are all living in some type of container which restricts us. Be it a prison, be it ill health, be it poverty, be it society, be it even your own home. Everything is a container.

And if we chose to only ever focus on what contains us, then we are never truly focused on what we can do within that container to be the best version of ourselves.

I had to change my perspective.

And that meant doing the internal work needed to do so. I had to accept the loss of the friend. And had to stop listening to self-defeating fear-based beliefs, which told me I wouldn’t be successful, and instead create a more highly energised, constructive mindset which would move me forward and through this tough period.

Switching my perspective away from what I lacked, I started to focus more on what I was grateful for in my life. I focused solely on the things I could do to increase my own energy. Be it mentally, emotionally, or physically.

Taking each day as it came, without looking too far into the distance. As a result of doing this internal work, I started to feel better.

My confidence returned. My motivation improved. And generally, I felt happy just to be alive. I knew that everything was happening for the right reasons.

And that led me to have more faith in the process, and to simply trust that all would work out just fine.

This last week the dam finally broke for me!

In a way not even the most optimistic version of myself could have foreseen. After several months of no new clients and the awful feelings of loss and lack, it seemed that suddenly everyone wanted to work with me.

I signed up four new 121 clients to my 3- and 6-month programs and was booked to do four new speaking presentations, and workshops, in May and June. Two in business organisations, one in a prison and one huge one for the ministry of justice!

My mind was blown! All this in literally one week… I made more money in one week, than in the previous six months.

And it was no coincidence that this all happened now, and not previously. It was a direct result of the level of energy I was omitting and attracting.

It’s the law of attraction in action. If you choose to only focus on what you lack, you will attract more of that. Focus however on abundance, and more importantly, do the work on your own belief system to align with that vision, and that is also what you will attract.

When we focus on our core energy, and welcome into our lives abundance and gratitude, ahead of lack and fear, wonderful things do indeed happen. It happened when I was in prison, and it happened again now.

Everything really does change when we do!

So, remember, if you are currently going through a period of difficulty, keep going and focus solely of what you can do, within your container…

Because when you do, eventually your container will change to, and so will everything in your life.

Have a Wonderful Weekend… Life is Good!

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