Life Doesn't Wait For Anyone

Lately I've had a realization of life, death and everything in between. I've come to terms with processing different events in my life.

Life doesn’t necessarily guarantee us anything. That’s a scary thought, but it's true. To life we’re just mere specks in a vast world.

Coming to terms with life and death is unexplainable and difficult. Once you realize things happen to people, people die, people get born into this life, you sit back and wonder what your part is in all of it.

Life doesn’t stop for anyone. It's your choice whether you dwell on something negative or allow yourself to feel the emotion and simply accept it.

Accepting things are also impossible for people. We just want to deny and deny that something bad is occurring but once you come to peace with the fact, it's inevitable you can’t stay mad at life. You simply have to realize that it's just another thing we have to adjust too.

Life is a weird concept. It's weird and confuses everyone. No one truly knows the meaning of life; it has many scattered opinions.

Because that’s just it. Life means something different to everyone. While one person thinks life is about succeeding and making a name for oneself someone, someone else might see it differently- they see it as a gift and want to experience it first hand and not be a passive bystander.

Death is another concept one can’t grasp. It’s a cycle and again, it's inevitable. You want to be mad, you want to pretend that it's not there, but it has a way of demanding attention. It has a way of reminding you that nothing is guaranteed, that it’s up to you and what you do with your time is all on you.

As weird as it sounds you have to come to terms with death. You have to sign the agreement statement and understand all the rules and conditions whether you like it or not.

I’ve seen people try and deny that and rip that statement to shreds but they’re the ones who never truly live, they only live with the aspect of death around the corner and that’s no way of living.

You have to live with a purpose. Everyone’s different but everyone has a common goal. You want to live, you want to make a difference in someone’s life whether that be minuscule or grand it's up to you.

Accepting the fact that bad things happen is the first step in getting your life back. It sucks and you will be knocked down and tried and put through tests. You just have to know you will eventually get back up, at your own pace and you will not dwell on it. You will create an amicable relationship with that fact and grow and move on.

Life won’t stop for you, life won’t guarantee you anything.

It's up to you to try and navigate the rocky waters and find your place and say what you believe, and feel how you want to feel and wholeheartedly come in tune with yourself.

Do you sometimes feel like you don’t love your life?

Like, deep inside, something is missing?

That’s because we are living someone else’s life. We allowed other people to influence or determine our choices—we are trying to please their expectations.

Social pressure is deceiving —we all become prey without noticing it. Before we realize we lost control of our lives, we end up envying how other people live. We can only see the greener grass—ours is never good enough.

To regain that passion for the life you want, you must recover ownership of your choices.

The Illusion of Others

You are not alone. Expectations are hard to overcome. With my experience coaching executives and their teams, I’m used to dealing with expectations—everyone is susceptible to the illusion of others.

Pleasing others is like chasing a moving target. People will have multiple hopes for you. Social pressure fluctuates—others’ expectations will continually change.

By trying to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one—ourselves included. Expectations are an illusion. That’s why most people don’t live the life they want. They feel frustrated and disappointed.

When we expect, we stop accepting reality.

Anticipation is annoying—even when things go as expected, you can’t enjoy unsurprising events. Even when we get what we wished for, we can’t be happy either. That’s the problem with anticipation—we fall in love with the expectations. If what we anticipated doesn’t come true, life seems unfair. If it does, the lack of surprise makes the actual experience less exciting.

The same thing happens with people. They get frustrated when you don’t behave as they expect. That’s key to understand—it’s their problem, not yours.

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Expectations are premeditated resentments.

Many people bear resentment when the outcome of an event is less than they imagined it would be, even if their expectation was based on unreasonable assumptions.

When you remove your own preconceptions and expectations, you can do the same for others. Living the life you love is liberating—you don’t feel the pressure to please others. Similarly, you won’t need to impose your will on others either.

When you take ownership of your life, other people feel empowered to follow suit.

Expectations are an illusion—they add useless pressure to everyone. Let’s recover the joy of living. Remember when you were a kid. You probably didn’t have time for expectations—you were busy enjoying life one minute at a time.

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Frustration is the gap between what people expect from you and who you are.

To bridge that void, you must reframe your relationship with people’s expectations. Expectations create a social contract—it’s an implicit agreement between others and you. If you don’t push back, people will assume you are okay with it.

Speak up. Or people will continue invading you. If you don’t resist, not only do you legitimize the agreement, it becomes a social practice. Soon, you’ll start doing the same to others—when you let other people define your life, you want to prescribe theirs, too.

Not expecting things from others is the first step to preventing people from dictating how you live. Life is a two-way street—when you realize that no one owes you anything, you stop expecting people to owe you anything either.

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Negative Emotions Are Not So Negative

Optimism has become almost a cult,—pessimism comes with a deep stigma. Those who are labeled as negative, are excluded from the conversation. Executives quickly learn to cultivate sunny emotions.

Both positive and negative emotions exist for a reason. Employees are sensors—they detect both problems and opportunities. Rather than dismissing negative emotions, understand what they are trying to tell you.

Many executives complain that dealing with negativity drains too much time and energy. Others worry that their intervention could make things worse. Many more report they were not trained to manage emotions. Not surprisingly, all respondents could name bosses who missed business opportunities or generated unnecessary costs by mismanaging emotions at work.

It is impossible to block negative emotions from the workplace—no organization is immune to people’s highs and lows. However, most senior executives just want to listen to goods news, not to understand the reality of their teams.

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