LIFE BEGINS AT THE END OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

How confident are you, really?

What’s your overall perception of yourself?

Do you think……YOU are beautiful, sexy, and intelligent?

Ask yourself to assess your self-confidence:

·       Am I afraid to take risks?

·       Do I keep my opinions to myself out of fear of being judged?

·       Do I worry about what people think of me?

·       Do I assume an attractive man won’t be interested in me?

Whether you have a teeny bit of confidence or just need a little more consistency in feeling confident when dating, you have to be willing to make changes to see results. None of these things require a ton of effort, but you’ll need to do them consistently.

Be Yourself

So many people care what others think. You might be that way. You worry that if you break out in your best ’90s dance moves on the floor, other dancers will say oh. My god. Jen. Look at her dance.

In reality, they’re probably impressed that you let yourself go with such abandon and wish they could do what they wanted without worrying about what people think.

You see the vicious circle here? We’re all so worried about what others think…and yet we admire when people truly are themselves, that we’re missing out on a lot of happiness.

When it comes to dating, being yourself is the best way to find compatibility.

Think about it: when you’ve gone on dates where you were a more edited version of yourself, how did it go?

The date might have been good, but did you feel good about how you portrayed yourself?

Let’s say it worked out and you became exclusive.

At what point did you start to let your hair down and be yourself?

Was he surprised at how different you were from that first date?

Being yourself around men tells them, take me or leave me. You don’t want to be with a man who likes the image of you that you’re putting out there…you want a guy who likes you for you.

Take care of yourself and you’ll feel more confident. 

Whatever “take care of yourself” means to you, do it. That might mean getting regular massages. Working out. Getting your nails done.

When you prioritize self-care, you feel good. You’re telling your body, mind, and soul, you’re important to me, so I will take care of you. That, in turn, builds confidence. That, then, attracts men.

Think about men you’ve been attracted to. Maybe the guy at the gym who’s always pushing himself harder. Or the coworker who always brings a kale salad for lunch. It’s a subconscious signal, but they’re communicating that they take care of themselves, and you find that sexy. Yes, kale is sexy.

If you want to learn how to be more confident around guys, put yourself first.

Practice Your Conversation Skills

Practice makes perfect.

I encourage them to take every opportunity to talk to men. At the coffee shop. At work. On dating At parties. At functions etc…etc,

The secret is to feel like you’ve got nothing to lose. It’s easier if you’re practicing with a man you’re not interested in, like the guy behind you in line at Starbucks. You don’t feel pressure to say the right thing since you’ll probably never see him again (then again…the dialogue might go so well that he asks you out!).

Simply talking to the opposite sex helps you build confidence. Dating apps are really great for this because you’re communicating via text and have a barrier that makes it a little easier to talk. There’s sort of a rhythm in how these conversations go, so you can try out different opening lines and questions and see which men respond more to.

If you are serious about improving how to be more confident around guys, make it your goal to talk to at least one (male) stranger a day!

Want to know how to feel more confident around guys? Listen to them.

It might not make sense at first glance that you should listen to build your confidence around men, but hear me out.

As Sir Richard Branson said: “Listen more than you talk. Nobody learned anything by hearing themselves speak.”

You can learn a lot from men if you just pay attention. And people who remember details (like him mentioning his upcoming dodgeball tournament) come off as confident and attractive. Who doesn’t love it when people actually pay attention to them?? So another way of how to be more confident around guys is to hear what they tell you and remember it.

Dress in Clothes You Feel Good In

It confounds me why so many women’s closets are full of shoes that give them blisters and outfits they hate. If you want to know how to be more confident around guys, start with your closet. When you dress in clothes that you feel and look good in, you exude self-assurance.

When you look at an outfit, how does it makes you feel? If it doesn’t make you feel happy, sexy, or good, toss it. When you’re going on a date, choose an outfit that people always compliment you when you wear it. Choose items that compliment your body type.

Don’t wear what you think you should wear. If you’re curvy, that super slinky dress your size 0 sister wears may not be as flattering on you. Be honest with yourself about what works for your body type.

Wear colors that warm your skin and accentuate your features.

When you look in the mirror before heading out on your date, you should think to yourself, damn girl. I look good. If you don’t think it, go back to your closet.

Don’t be shy about demonstrating your knowledge!

Have you ever been talking to a guy and realized you had some common interests? Especially if those interests are in an area you know well, this is your opportunity to really shine.

Let’s say you’re talking about travel and he says he tries to take an international trip every few years. You happen to write a travel blog and take several trips every year, so this is your chance to talk about something you’re both interested in while demonstrating that you really know your stuff when it comes to travel!

You’ll likely blow him away with all your airfare and packing hacks. And bonus? You’ll feel more confident. If you are smart or experienced in something, show it off! Your passion will shine through, and he’ll be all the more attracted to for it.

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Thank you … Most people — men and women — get nervous before a date. It’s human nature. But do you have a routine that gives just a teeny bit more confidence? If not, take a note from athletes.

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It feels good to flirt. As you’re showing interest in a man, flirting can also help you learn how to be more confident around guys.

Why does flirting feel good and boost your confidence? It’s hard for a man to not flirt in return when he’s receiving positive attention from a woman, so then you get the benefit of his return attention.

Flirting can make you feel sexy, witty, and fun. So start practicing more!