Level Up Your Social Skills for This Summer

Summer is here and it’s time to gather with family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors; which implies taking a look at your social skills such as communication, body language, and empathy to improve and develop better relationships this season.

Accordingly, to this idea, you will find seven (7) tips to boost your social skills and strengthen your relationships and allow you and others to feel comfortable. Avoiding, unnecessary, confrontations between individuals and can lead to the end of a friendship.

In advance of these seven (7) tips to boost your social skills this summer during gatherings, it is good to know that socializing can raise your brain health such as your memory, attention, and neurons network. Cite from Harvard Medical School.

1.??????Before getting together; think about possible topics that everyone could enjoy:

As guests′ hobbies, music, art, trips or travels, new books, tv shows, people’s pets, recipes, things to do, places to go this season, new local events, etc. Try to read some news about your community, see a few reviews from certain TV shows or books, and watch some sports to understand them. Subsequently, this permits you to speak securely and skip spreading fake news.

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2.??????Recognize what people you are hanging out with, what place, and the specific moment you are in:

?This is really important because you will respect the place you are in according to it, you won’t act the same in a church, hospital, or library as you would a playground, park, or pool.

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For example, on the occasion that, you are in a gathering where some people are having health, finance, or relationship issues you will hold off jokes, stories, and comments about it that are more likely to hurt someone′s feelings.

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3.??????It is good to know that not everyone is interested in very deep logical conversations: However, in case, you notice fake news going on in the conversation; very gently you can communicate that there are other news or sources that can clarify the topic the party is conversing over and bring better understanding about it.

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4.??????Avoid divider topics:

Politics, personal finance, religion, intimacy, or/and chatting over other people's lives. It could be a dissociating topic. Keep in mind that not everyone has the same thinking, values, and interests as you do.

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5.??????Be aware of people’s body language:

Whenever you think or perceive awkwardness with the questions you are asking or the topic you are using in the conversation, try to change it in a very gentle way. Assuming that you are the only one that knows about something and you want to share it; first make sure -as the conversation goes and their body postures change- if people are open to talk about it or not. Also, body language can say when it is time to go because the hots are done with the party.

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6.??????Be careful with overtalking:

Suppose that you find yourself in this position: try to keep silent for some seconds or even minutes and let the party flow with other topics. Remember not every room is safe to give your opinion.

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7.??????Know there are people that want to have the “power” of the conversation the entire time you are with them:

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?Be really careful with what you share with them because some people will, sometimes, try to bring up some news, that you didn’t want to share with them into the conversation while they -maybe- will not talk about the news they have or their personal life as they would like to hear from yours.

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These kinds of people -maybe- can’t stop talking about the things they are passionate about, and at times, they won′t allow other matters, points of view, and even totally new information on the table, just because they will like to have the reason all the time.?

Don′t take these kinds of people very seriously and just change the topic or communicate that you would like to talk over another subject that fits better for everyone.

This article belongs to Sofía Londono

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