Letting go … What do the words mean?

Why do we hold on to the past?

Why is it so difficult to let go of experiences that have caused us pain and suffering?

They mean letting go of painful memories and thoughts, harmful desires and unhealthy habits. It means detachment.

Ending is inevitable, but letting go is optional. The more you let go, the more beginnings you get. We have to agree to the flow of life all the same.

A decision to take an action that will result in a significant change in your life or in the lives of others.

Taking a risk to change the status quo.

Releasing yourself or others from a real or perceived guilt-arousing obligation.

Freeing yourself or others to be themselves without fear of rejection or disapproval.

If you find yourself wasting time worrying about things you can't control, here are things that can help:

Determine what you can control. ...

Focus on your influence. ...

Identify your fears. ...

Differentiate between ruminating and problem-solving. ...

Create a plan to manage your stress. ...

Develop healthy affirmations.

Most of us go through positive and negative experiences during our lives. Unfortunately, most of us hang on to or constantly recall the unpleasant or negative situations - some of which go back years or even all the way back to childhood.

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Thank you?...Other unpleasant or negative experiences may have happened yesterday or 6 months ago. Something someone did may have angered you, caused you to build up resentment, seek revenge, etc.

When we hold on to these negative experiences we actually block our ability to move forward.

When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience - when you don't let go of it - then you are naturally thinking about it constantly - it is something that is regularly on your mind. When you constantly think about that negative event or negative situation you prevent yourself from moving forward and healing.

I'm not talking about memories - we all have memories. But how many memories do you recall regularly?

How many pleasant memories do you recall every day?

Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you're holding on to, and that prevents you from moving forward.

These negative experiences can be a traumatic event that took place during your childhood or a fight you had with a friend which resulted in a grudge that you carry - and because of that grudge you no longer speak to each other.

These are the kinds of things many people carry - the more you carry the worse life gets - it's that simple.

Why?

Because you've filled your mind up with negative experiences - because you continually hang on to something that doesn't allow you to move forward you're carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down.

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What does LETTING GO involve??

Leaving your comfort zone. Learning to let go of old habits, ideas, people who are not serving your best interests, and much more is not an easy task for anyone.

?The main reason is one must leave one’s comfort zone or familiar situations, habits and thinking patterns. This is stressful, often in the extreme. Therefore, most people simply do not do it.

They make excuse after excuse as to why they should not change, rather than embrace change. This is the main block in most people’s way when it comes to letting go of anything in one’s life.

As we mature and grow wiser, we realize what we need to hold on to and that which we need to leave behind.

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Relationships

?The real secret of an incredible relationship has absolutely nothing to do with the other person. It has to do with you. You can only love as much as your heart is capable of loving. Not just that person but anything.

There's only one door to the heart. You can't keep it closed to all kinds of people and all kinds of things and all kinds of situations but think well the right person, and then I'll open it for him.

It doesn't work that way. It's one door. So your ability to love period is the basis for a great relationship.

?How much am I capable of loving.

?How passionate am I about life.

How much am I capable of loving the sunrise, this day, my dog, myself.

If you are conditionally loving things. I love this a little bit, I love... I'm not talking about preferences but when there's something you really care about, if you don't know how to give yourself to it a hundred percent, when the right person comes along you won't know how to love him or her.

If you think the other person's going to do things to make you love them, that's a misunderstanding. Your love has a life of its own. And your ability to love has nothing to do with if the person is pleasing you or not. It has to do with how much your heart is ready to just jump into the fire.

There is something important to be learned from the art of 'letting go', it is an invitation to relinquish unhealthy attachments to events, ideas, possessions, and minor irritations.

No time is better than the present to make a conscious decision to release these negative influences so that, you can enjoy life as it unfolds precious moments each and every day.

To 'let go' also means to give up resisting and struggling to hold on to meaningless issues in exchange for powerful and wholesome moments that come our way by allowing and accepting unchangeable realities that come by in our daily lives.

Accept 'what is', and let go of what was! The hardest part about growing is letting go and moving away from our comfort zones and moving on with something untried and new.

True and valuable wisdom lies in accepting what is, letting go of what was and having faith in what could be.

Our future hopes and happiness should never be defined by our fear-which exists only in our minds.

It is a joy to follow our hearts, and a tragedy to let the lies of fear stop us.

You have to let go at some point in order to move forward, and what holds most of us back?

?STRESS!!! Unfortunately, many people don’t see the connection between fear and stress.

They overlook or discount that fear also encompasses the low to moderate range as well, such as worry, concern, agitation, and anxiety. Nonetheless, fear at any level produces stress responses, therefore stresses the body.