LETTING IT GO...

Hi Buddies, Welcome to post 9 of the series…

Hope you find a better connection to associate with a bigger picture.

And if not, please don’t forget it’s a series of steps towards Self-growth.

Also, remember the hack I said you, all these steps will have an impact for sure in your life (on regular practice)

Series 9:

LETTING IT GO:

Always there might be moments that inflicted hurt and some might have left deeper scars.

Some disappointments, some setbacks, some betrayal and some words we believed ended up entirely false.

Some trust breakage, some subtle rifts or cold war.

some sudden shocks or unexpected actions with a hysterical consequence. One or a few of these might also have happened to us.

The pain associated with them might pass away usually with time or sometimes they choose to stay with us.

Pain is normal but a mental block due to it isn’t a casual thing to act with. It doesn’t happen with all or isn’t even the same to all,

Our experience with the situations varies and so does the trauma that is associated with it.

The way we perceive the happenings and our responses to the situations decides it for us.

We decide whether it should affect us or not.

Okay, I will explain how we became responsible for our pain.

Many times there is a certain mishap that might make us feel destabilized. But the decision to end the dwelling period started the internal push.

And that makes the person in charge of pain. If we don’t decide to do it now it might start building the burden.

Okay, I understand this question might be fuming inside you.

It's easy to say, but to face the situation here from my place would be difficult?        

I don’t disregard your worries and the stress attached to them. But I’m trying to get rid of the pain isn’t wrong. or say is attempting to let.

All these things have happened, they aren’t as expected but that’s okay.

Still, I can try to move on and push the pain a little further from affecting you.

The first step is to collect all those memories attached to pain and try your best to think about relieving yourself from them.

The thought of withdrawing from yourselves wouldn’t be easy.

But once the decision is made it would be easier to execute the rest.

I'm suggesting some proven ways to thrust past mental obstacles.        

1)Understanding we never had complete control over every moment.

When things go downside it’s a reality to think of all that’s related to it also with the same mindset.

Like Judging yourself hard and pushing yourself into the dark.

Try thinking it has “I’m also a human, mistakes are bound to happen by anyone".

This attitude will certainly have an impact.

2) Try to accept rather forcefully forgetting

We always tend to forget hurtful events, but it ends up remembering them every time.

Try this alternative way of approach.

Whenever we have a physical injury it inflicts pain on us, so are we pushing it or completely ignoring it.

No, we don’t.

We instead tend to provide ailments to cure them.

That’s what is needed for a bad memory too.

Try feeling it and expressing out the emotions associated with it to someone whom you confide in or meet a counsellor.

Let out even a cry.

The more you push it inside, it will burst out once.

After a few more experiences with them, you will be able to handle them better.

So, on the next attack of emotions, you will try to focus on the task on hand because it’s your priority.

So it will delay the effect of pain.

3)Take them as learnings

Learn how not to do things and rectify them on further attempts.

But don’t fall under the trap of emotions that says all the other attempts will also be like this.

Consider this a slip, not as a fall.

And understand the only way out is to move forward, have a clear belief in it.

Although we don’t have control over happenings we do have control over our thoughts.

Trying to manage it will reduce the number of hurtful feelings.

Preventing them is impossible but handling them better is in our hands only.

In the next 7 days, if something disrupts your peace.

Try embracing the emotions attached to it.

This attempt will undeniably make you relax.

Start embracing the past!

I will see you next week with the next step.

Have a happy day.

See you all!!