Letting Go of Guilt and Shame

Today we're going to talk about letting go of guilt and shame.

Hey, creators, I'm Ede. I am the creative director at Coast2Coast Creative and we are your media department.

I want to talk about the pain that we carry. The pain that I carry, pain that I’m embarrassed to talk about, I'm disgusted about, or I've been considered a bad person because of some of the things that I've done and some things that I've really been broken from.

The one thing that I've really learned is that I am not the only one. There are others out there who feel the same way, and you really don't know what go through. Some of the common things that we do see is that you see somebody who's successful and who is happy, or they are beautiful, and you think that their life is easy. And that is not true. Life isn't about being easy. It’s a struggle and it's hard. And we're here to learn and to grow from it through the pain and struggle. I did mention that I was born in the Philippines and in certain countries, as a female, you don't really have as much freedom. Growing up, I was expected to act a certain way to be a certain person. And when I did not meet those expectations, I felt a lot of guilt and shame because of it. And mainly it's from my family and church, sad to say, unless you have a good church, but I've had to really extract myself from that environment because it's not healthy to be labeled all the time and to be looked at as the person from the person of the past. You don't have to be the person you were in the past. You can change everything. And like I said, life is not about being easy.

Life is about struggle. And it really is hard. One thing to really recognize is that no one is good or bad. it’s just a perception. You look at some of the major, drug dealers or dictators out there, and in their minds, they are really thinking that they're doing something good. And it really is just that. It’s a perception of what others feel in relation to your actions. That's one thing. Another thing is that people do things that are perceived as good and bad because they're confused, or they are hurt and lost or broken and they need help. If you really think about it and you see this from others, you ll learn it's not about you. It’s about them and what they’re going through in their own struggles.

I used to judge myself for everything that I’ve done, and I used to carry that with me. And I had a good friend who helped me get through that, who's no longer around anymore, but he was just a good spirit, and that helped me through it. Talking about it and just really letting it go. I do aspire to be a good person, but still, I make mistakes. I’ve made mistakes and everyone makes a mistake. Everyone make mistakes, and it's okay not to be completely perfect.

There was a point in my life where I thought that I was living for someone else. And when I didn't meet those expectations, I felt so much guilt and so much shame that I didnt even think that I should live. And we'll talk about that another time.

But that's how much of a toll or burden that it carries to others. And I can only imagine.

So if you were to look at the definition of what is good and what is bad, it’s really the perception from others based on your actions.

Once you realize this, you’ll realize that it's not about you and it's just in relation to other people, then you can really change your vibration or your mindset. You can really let go of the guilt and the shame that you carry and walk around with.

What is being a good person, right? I think that being a good person is when you’re around people and they are benefiting from your presence, and you are making their life better.

Your experience is actually a gift in disguise and it's something that you can share with others so that they don't have to go through and make those same mistakes, and you can teach others so that they also learn and grow. That’s kind of my take in letting go of guilt and shame and practicing forgiveness. Forgiving yourself, forgiving others, and basically self-love. Thank you for watching my videos. And if you found some value, like share subscribe. If I missed anything, please feel free to comment down below and I'll see you next time. Thank you. Bye.