Letting The Boxes Go
Dorothy A. Martin-Neville, PhD
Guiding Visionary Leaders Through Transition to the Freedom of Transformation and Developing Their Legacy. Challenging paradigms, discovering innovative solutions, and honoring value-driven leadership on all levels.
I had an interesting series of conversations over the last few days, in Dallas, NYC, with potential clients, and with friends here In CT as well. The location soon became irrelevant, since one key point frequently showed up.
When we choose to make major shifts in any one area of our life, that shift affects every other area in our life as well. We are not compartmentalized beings but rather one whole multidimensional reality.
A potential client is newly married and with the desire to take his businesses both nationally and globally. He has the ability to do it all. Separately, each of these, with a clear focus and having procedures and protocols in place, is possible. However, a new marriage needs time for focus and nurturing so that a solid foundation is developed. How can he work on creating all of these expansions while still allowing his new wife – and now stepmother to his several children – to feel special and valued?
As with everything in life there are ebbs and flows; there will be times when one aspect of his dream is taking up a majority of his time and at other times the opposite aspect will be demanding more time. Can you imagine the damage, and loss, possible if there are no anticipated responses to the shifting needs? No ability to recognize beforehand that rituals, built in safe-guards, and transparent conversations are imperative for strengthening the chance for all these to not only survive but to thrive while working together to create it??
Where in your world, if anywhere, do you forget to notice that every area of your life impacts all the others, negatively or positively?
A late night on the town can be a barrel of laughs and an exciting adventure but it will impact you at work tomorrow, minimally or in a major way. Recognizing that gives you the opportunity to make adjustments. I got home from NYC at midnight last night after a 2-hour train ride and a 1-hour car ride from the train station. Those followed 3 engagements during the day ending at 8:40 and a rapid walk back to Grant Central Station. As a result, knowing I would be thrilled but exhausted, I previously decided not to book anything before 10:00. It’s a luxury of freedom and I know it, but I also chose it.?
Look at your life and those involved in it. Loved ones, yourself, clients, potential clients, co-workers, and so on. Small adjustments to your day can occur frequently having little to no impact elsewhere, however, major shifts are another story. Let go of the illusion that “What happens in this area of my life has no impact on the others.”? One may call you to pull away from the other, leaving one side hurting. Your company, gross sales, or net sales may pay the price. Your relationships may feel abandoned, regardless of how you choose to see it, and once hurt they will create a story that may have little to no footing in reality, yet it is real to them. Your health, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, can be impacted.??
Life is a wonderfully wild adventure full of risks, joys, deep breaths, and connections. Choosing to see from a 30,000 ft. view, allows you to see the impact your choices have and the prices you will pay for them before the cost comes due. Minimizing the cost, maximizing the growth, and realizing anything is possible with your eyes wide open and letting the illusions of boxes go, makes the journey the adventure it was meant to be where everyone wins.? What adjustments, preparations, or perspectives do you need to shift or make in order to achieve your dreams whether for the summer or for your life? Plan now and make the journey so much smoother, less complicated, and with less overall cost.
Dorothy
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