Letter 42: How to Break Your Addiction? with One Question : Mind Blown research

Everyone has addiction, addiction to work, to smoking, to going back again to same traumas. The surprising truth I discovered that blew my mind was, the one question is

Instead of asking “Why the addiction?” start asking “Why the pain?” Until you address the underlying emotions, you’ll continue your addictive behaviours.

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This man heals what doctors can't: Gabor Mate.

A groundbreaking health expert reveals a startling truth: the root cause of serious health challenges - from Cancer to Addiction and Depression - may lie in our buried emotions. Here's how these hidden feelings shape your daily reality: ??

• The Mind-Body Disconnect Our approach to chronic illness is fundamentally flawed. Take India's diabetes epidemic – despite our wealth and scientific advancement, we're struggling. Why? Because modern medicine artificially separates mind from body. According to Dr. Maté, treating symptoms while ignoring emotional roots misses the bigger picture. When we prescribe pills for mental health without addressing underlying emotions, we're only scratching the surface.
• The Womb's Hidden Influence Life's emotional blueprint begins before birth. A mother's stress physically alters her unborn child's brain and physiology. These early imprints shape how we handle stress decades later. In our modern world, pregnant women often work until late stages, exposed to chronic stress. These maternal emotions don't just pass through the placenta – they help write their child's future emotional script.
• The True Face of Addiction We've misunderstood addiction entirely. It's not the core problem – it's a solution the mind created to cope with deeper wounds. Research reveals a striking pattern: 70% of individuals in drug treatment programs report past trauma. The real question isn't "Why the addiction?" but "What's the pain you're trying to escape?"
• Depression's Hidden Roots Depression isn't simply a chemical imbalance – it's the weight of unexpressed emotions. When we bury our feelings, they don't vanish. Instead, they reshape our inner landscape. Studies show emotion-suppressors face 30% higher risk of depression. True healing begins when we dare to feel what we've been avoiding.
• The Price of People-Pleasing That constant need to keep others happy? It's often a childhood survival strategy. Those raised in emotionally uncertain environments learned early that their own needs came last. What looks like kindness on the surface may actually be a shield protecting old wounds.

So what it takes to Heal

Healing begins with:

• Identifying your own needs and honoring them.
• Setting healthy boundaries to protect your emotional well-being.
• Reclaiming your sense of self by tuning into what truly matters to you.

Gabor Maté recommends several powerful healing methods:

At its core, healing requires confronting and processing suppressed emotions—those unspoken feelings that linger beneath the surface. This means reconnecting with your body, understanding its signals, and allowing yourself to fully experience your emotions without judgment.