Let’s talk about the weather…??
Martin Schoendorfer
Certified Life Coach | Helping successful corporate individuals to embrace reinvention, harness their strengths and pursue a self-led, impactful life.
??…and how this conversation can change your life. ??
I want to share something with you that I continuously hear people say. I've also previously observed myself saying this to my little niece. And I usually don't say this. What I said was, ‘If the weather is nice tomorrow, then we're gonna go for a walk or go for a stroll in the city’. Then it hit me - what does that mean ‘If the weather is nice’? - The weather is always nice.
Connecting this to perspective and perception is the misconception of what we say compared to what we mean. Because when I said what I said, what I actually meant is,’If it's sunny’, because if it's sunny and it's warm, then it's more comfortable to go outside and be in nature. But that's also perception. Because if we put on warm clothes, then we could do that regardless.?
??What does that have to do with mindset? One of the things that I mentioned previously is the power of choice that we have - we can choose what we focus on. Instead of saying, ‘The weather is bad today.’, because it's raining, we have the choice to say, ‘The weather is not to my liking today, because I planned on something different, or was hoping that it's warm and sunny.’?
?? Rain is necessary for life. If there's no rain, nothing will grow - that's why I always do my best to not only observe myself and other people saying this, but to really make an effort to use the language of positive perception.?
When I talk to other people and catch myself using negative perception, I immediately change the sentence. And changing that perception is really powerful. Like the weather, there are always things going to happen outside of your control - the only thing, and most powerful thing you can do is choosing how you respond.?
There is a huge difference between responding and reacting. If you respond to a situation, then you can adapt to what's happening, you can go about it in a more structured and more positive way.?
If you react to something, the reaction comes immediately based on your autopilot-system, on years of being programmed and of thinking in a certain way. That reaction has a specific emotion attached to it. And more often than not, it is a negative emotion or an emotion that is not serving you.?
So here is what I suggest you immediately apply in your daily life:
?? Stop reacting and start responding by taking some time to objectively look at the situation at hand.
? Become aware of your auto-response-system. This system includes triggers, ‘safety’-reactions, and your subconscious programming.
?? Start with simple things like the weather - change your perception and your perspective and remind yourself that it’s not about the weather, it’s about how you look at it and how you respond or react to it.
?I would love to hear from you in the comments below, because my mission is to serve you, to inspire you and to leave this world with some more happiness and positivity. ??