Let's Talk: Best Tips On How To Learn And Adapt.

As soon as we are born we are learning to adapt to our new surroundings so that we can get what we want in our life. To get fed, to feel more comfortable, to feel loved, to get comfort so that we can feel and be happy.

Unfortunately, as we grow up people tell us how we should be behaving, thinking and feeling. Some of it is useful to us and some of it hinders us. We perhaps think it through too much, we elaborate on it and then reinforce that with other experiences that, if we're not careful will get in our way of being happy. We can forget that we can find a better way because we are so bogged down with what that other person said perhaps 20 years ago.

So where do we start?

I used to teach a parent craft class in offender learning many years ago and when I wrote the course it made me think about me as an individual, a daughter and as a mother. I had to think about where I got my parenting skills from which was in the first instance my parents. It got me thinking about what they gave me and my sister that I liked and thought was successful that I wanted to pass onto my children. Then what I could adapt to make more personal to my individual children and more modern. Also what I felt didn't work. Then I started to think about what I learnt from other parents, the phrases they used, the way the settled arguments, asked challenging questions to make their children think for themselves.

More recently I broke my ankle quite badly and boy did it hurt. Yes, at first the pain was debilitating but I soon wanted to get on as normal as life as I could, pull my weight around the home. At first getting the washing done. cleaning the floors, those sorts of things. Again I had to look back and think who I could borrow ideas off and this made me look back to my husbands Nan who struggled with terrible arthritis. I began to think about how she got her washing down the stairs, outside on the line and put away again nicely folded whilst on a Zimmer frame. Even though my broken ankle was a temporary annoyance it made me focus on getting through the stuck phase so I could stop saying, 'I can't do it', and start getting back to a more normal day more easily.

So, where do you start?

1. Where are you stuck?

2. What are you stuck with to finding a better way forwards?

3. Whose model of adaptation can I borrow to help you?

Trial it.

4. How can I learn from this and adapt it further to really make it right for me and my needs?

Trial it again

Learn from it again

5. Adapt it further until it becomes fit for your needs.

To listen to the whole recording click the link.

https://youtu.be/F7X8HxtB3o8

But, if you would like help with your adaptations to change in life or finding where you are stuck then go to my website, https://www.cathlloyd.co.uk and leave a message so we can talk further about your individual needs.