Let a Man Chase You

If you can’t get a guy to chase you, you won’t succeed in today’s dating world.

Like it or not, the chase isn’t just something men enjoy. It’s something coded to their DNA, fundamental to building and keeping attraction.

Let a man chase you! As women you have been taught to “go after what you want.” That’s perfect for business, but in your love lives, it’s a bit backward. Men have always been the hunters. They love difficult things.

He wants the thrill of the hunt and chase with you, too. The part that drives a lot of women absolutely nuts: 

Will he call?  Why does he need space etc. Is a thrill for him. 

Did you know that when guys are sitting around with their buddies saying things like this: “I can’t do that my wife would kill me.” 

He is bragging about you to them? He and his buddies all want the woman they can never quite figure out or control. Strong men want a strong woman who won’t take any of their BS and will call them on it. 

How do I let him chase me?

You love yourself with abandon. No excuses. If he can’t love you the way you are don’t bother with him. If he says he likes blondes and you’re a brunette? Look at your watch and say nicely, “Thanks for the drink. I have an early morning and it’s time to go home.” 

Notice his actions. Action is key with him…the producer. Men do a lot of things on purpose to get an emotional reaction from ladies . ( yes…an upcoming blog on that one! ) When he doesn’t get an emotional reaction from you, you just put the kibosh on that little game of his. 

You won’t compete with other women over a man. If he’s trying to make you jealous with other women he is not respecting you.  And you are going to blame her? Blame the source. 

If he tells you about women that are “coming on to him” or an “ex-girlfriend” he is getting together with? He is doing it to get a reaction from you and it’s disrespectful. Tell him something along the lines of this: 

 “I really want you to be happy. Let me know what you decide.” 

Then no contact. ( you go on a silence mode.)

Let him “explore all those possibilities” if there are any. One of two things will happen. If he’s a jerk, and leaves you-you win because who needs that? If he’s just trying to get the reaction, get ready for flowers. You gave him the kick in the butt he needed.

You let him “chase you” by letting him call, letting him make the plans. (And yes…you let him know what you would like to do, too!) You continue to lead your amazing life, career, pursing and researching your dreams, hobbies and desires because your life is awesome and fun without him. 

Your life is important to you. It’s something you’ve been working at, excelling at and enjoy. It’s what makes you wonderful you! Don’t give it up. 

You don’t tell him every detail of your life, so he wonders what you’re up to. If you’re exhausted and all you can think of doing is relaxing in a bath tub? 

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Thank you …Do it. If he calls, he can leave a message. You don’t have to tell him what you are doing every minute of every day. And don’t expect him to account for his every minute. Maintain a little mystery by keeping focused on you and your needs. Keep moving to the rhythm that makes you feel good.

While you’re getting to know each other, try to keep your dates shorter and don’t spend long hours talking about feelings with him. (call a girlfriend) Don’t ask him “Where he thinks things are headed.” 

Want to add word or two? 

I want you to really watch a man’s actions. Words are cheap.  This is winning message. This is not the time to gloat, or be a brat to him. You won. 

Now you can be feminine and nice. This is important because it will show him that if he wants nice accommodating you, there are rules.  He wants access he’s got to play by your rules. 

This separates the “guys” from the “men.” And you have got to do this when you first meet. On the first date, encounter, whatever.  Keep grounded in your dating rules, sweetheart. They’ll save you a lot of grief. 

Your comment ….? 

Never bring up marriage, kids, etc. Let him bring it up. When he DOES bring them up, give a vague but clear answer. 

“Marriage? I haven’t really thought too much about it. If I do get married it will have to be someone wonderful.” Perfect. 

 First he’ll probably be shocked that HE was the one bringing up marriage. 

 Second, if he has brought it up, he’s been thinking about it and wants to see your reaction. When you aren’t really “thinking” about it and want someone “wonderful” you just told the hunter what he has to do catch his “intended prey.” Let the producer produce!

And there are so many more things you can do to let him chase you. 

We will discuss, I promise! This is the key: 

 Remember that you are a “wonderful catch.” Any man would be lucky to get you! Make him prove that he is your hero. 

 Men love being heroes.

Let him prove worthy of fabulous you! 

And when he does? Appreciate the hell out of him! 

Let’s be honest. You love the chase, too. If a nice guy walked right up to you and served himself to you on a silver relationship platter, you’d be bored out of your brain cells.

And if an overseas ‘investor’ emails you about a rich prince’s fortune you’ve just inherited, you don’t start planning how to spend your share.You just think “What’s the catch?”

Everything obeys the law: That which has true value, requires work.

A man wants to chase.

He wants to feel like he’s the only guy in the world that could have won you. That it was his unique blend of charm and charisma. It’s how he feels secure that you won’t totter off to the next guy with a hint of basic suave.

And if you’re honest, you want to chase, too. You want to know he wasn’t just looking for a relationship with anyone – that it was you, and only you – who turned his swinging bachelor ways into a committed partner. That’s how you can feel secure with him.

Ok. So chasing is important. Now, how do you get the guy to do that?

The more passionate you are, the more exciting your world, and the more you are embracing the wonderful thing that is life, the more you can throw the dating textbooks out the window.

 Men will chase you, without YOU ever doing anything.