Let Go of the Olds and Give Spaces to the News!

Every year when the time is close to the end, most people will begin to prepare for the new year! Just wondering how many of us are preparing it in the best positive way we could?

“The Old Needs to Go, the New Needs Space!”

Often we heard that people lives in the past; and daily quotes keep telling us to leave the past in the past1 But deep down, do we really be able to identify ourselves had been able to really “Leave the past in the past”?

Let’s review these aspects and clear our list:

1. Old Belongings 

Our space at home has it’s limit; before we’re trying to enjoy all the holiday deals and get new clothes, for example; have you review your collections and take out those you don’t really want or need anymore? Just review, take out and make space for new!

Solution: There’re numbers of people out there would appreciate what you don’t need; take those oldies to donate, recycle them and help people and save the planet!

Controversy: Some may say, “I can just get a bigger closet or even a bigger house”; of course you can! But the fact is that, you get a new closet at the same time, you need to sacrifice other space in your house. If you’re getting a bigger house, congratulations! You just take out the old house and get a new one!

2. Negative Emotions Within Your Close Circle

Emotions basically apply to all people around you or those already pasted through your life! When it comes to emotions, some of us may thought, “Oh, I already gorget about that(person)!” But, have you check deep down inside your mind? THere’re quite an amount of examples like, the father didn’t talk to his son for years; the brothers were not gathered together for over years; or the once your close friend haven’t talked to you for months! Most of these cases began with some sort of argument back then, even our mouth said we forgot and forgave already; but we still couldn’t have a regular conversation or gathering together with them; have you really forgot or forgave?

Solution: Just think about one thing; everyone’s life has a limit; you never know when would be your last conversation or gathering with the person you loves; so treasure the chance to say hello before you regret!

Controversy: “I already forgot and forgave; but he/she needs to start the conversation first as because it’s his/her fault!” Right! Have you really forget and forgive?

3. The Shadow of Emotions

When it comes to relationship; there’s one extra old thing worth for us to review, take out and get space for new! — The Shadow! Some of us stay not only in the past; but more deep inside in the Shadow! Shadow came from few different ways; but you will only notice them when you can admit it and truly face it! Have you seen people with a new partner (Boyfriend/Girlfriend) that looked very similar to their Ex? And sometimes it’s not only the physical appearance that we’re thinking; but it may also apply to the criteria; such as occupations, place where he or she was born and grown up! Have you seen some similarities in the pattern of one’s relationship? When one want to be-small himself or herself in relationship in order to keep the partner; they’ll always do it again but keep complaining about their partners. 

Solution: When you meet a new person, but realize that there’re something of this new person has a lot of similarities of your Ex; talk to yourself and ask if you’re falling into him or her because of the person you loved once, or actually the similarities that you’re falling into! An unsuccessful relationship always taught us something, you will be able to identify what you like and you should also learn how to develop better communication in relationship with another individual; so review, take out the bad parts or the shadow, and give spaces to the new person!

Controversy: “They’re similar because that’s my type, I don’t want to change my choice only to avoid the similarities!” You’re right about that! You’re the only person will know the truth about your feeling; if it’s only about your own favorites style, of course that’s not a problem. Just make a double check so that you can avoid the shadow from deep inside may hurt the new person’s feeling!

Conclusion:

Oldies need to be review, emotions and clothes are similar. The outfit that doesn’t fit you anymore needs to be taken out; the negative emotions don’t fit you anymore just simply take them out too! Recycle the belongings and throw the toxic negativities out; give spaces and ready for new things, newbie and challenges in life to be in!

Finally I was able to identify my own shadows; faced them and deal with them; not that I have such a dark side but, the experiences that I’ve which gave me the best lesson in life; sometimes we need to realize al these shadows and dark side of our life in order to really make changes and enjoy a real positive life! 

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