Lessons from a year of gratitude
“We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.” - John F. Kennedy
In March, I completed a personal, year-long project in which I concluded every week with a LinkedIn post, sharing my #gratitude for the people who had a positive impact on my career. The first post was dedicated to my parents, and then continued to explore the 30+ year journey of my career, wrapping up with a celebration of my 15th anniversary at 谷歌 .?
The undertaking was one of the most comprehensive, challenging, and rewarding projects I have ever attempted. Over 53 weeks, I shared more than 26k words in recognition of 270 people.
The story of the project has two parts, from its genesis, to what I learned along the way. Because the lessons learned are most important (and probably more interesting), I will start there…
Lessons Learned:
Genesis:
Over the course of the year, I received dozens of questions about the project, my motivations, and my inspirations. Instead of a plain retelling of how it all started, I’ll provide the story through responses to the frequently asked questions I got along the way.
1) How did you start focusing on being more grateful?
Years ago, my wife started a tradition with my daughter, beginning Friday dinners with a discussion of what we are grateful for. While I participated every week, at one dinner after the 2020 COVID lock-downs, I really started to think about it. At the time, not only was I isolated from friends and family (like everyone else), but I was also feeling particularly unsettled about my career trajectory. I had been finding myself, all too often, sad and even angry. That night, I reflected on how lucky I really was... I had a job that allowed me to stay home, I had my wife and daughter close by, my friends and family were, for the most part, safe and healthy, and I was living in an age when we had the technology to stay connected remotely. Thinking that way seemed to reduce the negative emotions, and this led me back to other lessons I had forgotten about the benefits of gratitude.
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2) What inspired you? Had you seen this before?
I’d been exposed to some amazing research on the benefits of gratitude, but hadn’t given it much time. When I decided to be more intentional about being grateful, I went back to these sources. Two of my favorites are Adam Grant and Angela Duckworth .
I actually got the chance to meet Adam Grant, in 2015, when he spoke to my team at a Management Summit. During the talk he walked us through research he did as part of his book Give & Take that showed some of the benefits of expressing gratitude.
Similarly, Angela Duckworth talks about gratitude a lot, especially on the No Stupid Questions podcast that she started with Stephen Dubner . She regularly explains how gratitude has the power to displace negative emotions.
Inspired by them, and others, I started playing with a number of gratitude efforts as a way to combat the sadness and angst I was feeling. However, while alerting me to the things I should be grateful for, it seemed pointless without the actual act of sharing that gratitude with those who enabled it.
This brought me to my final inspiration, Mark Hamill, who has built a habit of randomly posting “shout outs” to folks on social media. So I got to thinking… What if I took Mark Hamill’s public shout out approach, but applied it to my career?
3) How do you decide what to write each week?
When I first came up with the idea, I created chronologically sorted groups of people who I would like to thank from my Linkedin connections, along with quick notes about what I would cover for each. At first, I didn’t have an exit strategy. I just planned to write until I ran out of things to say. I also didn’t realize that there was a 3k character limit to posts, which made me rethink some of the groupings. Around the end of the second month I realized I could stretch out the stories for a full year, allowing me to bookend the project with my 14th & 15th Googleversary
4) How do you remember all those details?
I tend to be an insanely nostalgic person, and I keep everything (some of you know about my calendar). This definitely helped the initial structure. On the few occasions where there were gaps in my recollection, I would reach out to folks to make sure I was accurate. But overall, these were important enough events in my life that they left a mark… and in those situations, you tend to remember the details.
5) What do you find most rewarding?
So much of this was rewarding. From the re-connection with folks, to the engagement with my readers. But the most rewarding thing was completely solitary. Each week, the few moments after I hit submit, before anyone else had read the post, I would read the final version one more time. I would have a tremendous sense of pride at being able to close out one more week, and I would have the warm feeling of nostalgia, reflecting on that time and moment in my history, with people I care deeply about. During that short window, I would reflect on the gratitude I felt, and let the stress and angst of the week slip away.?
6) Will you post again? What’s next?
I have other project ideas, and other passions I want to spend some time on. If you haven’t figured it out already, I am an incredibly reflective person, and that will drive whatever I do next.
I recently started my second half of my first century on this planet. That is a milestone that has me thinking about how I want to leave this place better than I found it. Not sure exactly what that looks like yet… but it will definitely have an influence.?
Wrapping Up:
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” - Willie Nelson
To close, I will just again express gratitude to all of you who followed along in my journey. I wrote these for myself, but the response was more than I could have imagined. I hope the stories of those who inspired and guided me, have provided you with ideas and reflections, and maybe the inspiration to pay the gratitude forward to those who have helped you along the way. If it has, then that is just one more reward from this whole thing that I can look back on with pride.
With gratitude, Alex.
Leadership Development | Executive Coach | ex-EY, Korn Ferry
1 年This is wonderful, Alex!
Clinical Asst Prof at Loyola Marymount University - Retired - reach me at [email protected] // available for fill in accounting professor position teaching intro courses as well as advanced and intermediate and Ethics
1 年Alex, your year long adventure in preparing your posts represented - at least to me - a self assessment that could be a course in management. Dealing with people; self assessment of where you had been as well as where you were going; and tying it all together. The highs and lows that we all have dealt with at one time or another. The soul searching and sharing that you put out there each week for a year allowed us who followed you to be not only a part of the journey but to take a look at our own careers and self assess along with you.
Beautiful Alex, grateful for all you shared!