Lessons from " The Courage to be Disliked"

"Courage to be Disliked" is a book based on the principles of Adlerian #psychology written by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. It presents a dialogue between a #philosopher and a young man discussing aspects of #life and #happiness. Ten lessons from the book:

1.??? #Live now: Embrace the #present moment and #focus on what you can do now. Focusing on the past or worrying about the #future can hinder your personal #growth.

2.??? #Responsibilities: Take responsibility for your #choices and #actions. Blaming others or external circumstances for your problems prevents you from #changing and #improving.

3.??? Let go of the need for #recognition: Look for inner #satisfaction and meaning in actions, not outer validation. The book emphasizes the importance of giving up the #desire to gain the approval of others.

4.??? Take the #courage to change: Have the courage to change yourself instead of trying to change others or the outside #world. Personal change is in your control.

5.??? Avoid #comparison: Comparing yourself to others can be frustrating. Instead of constantly measuring yourself against outside standards, focus on your #path and growth.

6.??? Have meaningful #relationships: Have a real relationship based on mutual #respect rather than pleasing anyone. Authentic relationships contribute to personal well-being.

7.??? Acceptance of imperfections: Admitting mistakes and #errors as part of the #learning and improvement process. Perfection is unattainable and the acceptance of perfection is a fair assumption.

8.??? Specific Functions and Objectives: Distinguish between #tasks and #goals. Tasks, specific actions, goals are broad outcomes. Focus on getting things done without worrying too much about achieving a specific result.

9.??? Conquer projected losses and gains: Establish a hierarchy of #self-satisfaction. Know your inner value without feeling inferior

10.? #Freedom in relationships: Give others freedom, and give yourself the same freedom. Avoid controlling or manipulating relationships, but respect and understand people.

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These lessons reflect the Adlerian philosophy presented in the book, encouraging readers to develop a mindset that encourages personal responsibility, courage, and meaningful relationships with others.