Lesson Learned
Celeste Rains-Turk
Licensed Associate Counselor, National Certified Counselor, Personal Development Mentor, Podcast Host, Best-Selling Author
A woman who won’t ever tolerate the type of treatment she received in the past again
The end of last year into early this year I was finally getting the courage to leave someone who I was seeing. I thought that he was so great in the beginning but things changed & I refused to see red flags right at the start
This taught me a lot about myself, what I was idolizing, & how easily my compassion & love for others could be used against me
I was in a position where I was constantly giving & got hung up on promises that I justified mistreatmentI’m grateful that it gave me perspective on myself, boundaries, navigating relationship & social media (you probably will not meet any man I am seeing again until I’m engaged or married or seen in the wild????), it also taught me how anyone can get caught up in toxicity like thatI can see where & why I was vulnerable & where I didn’t stand up for myself & should have early on after a “hey girl” message & more… so much more than I’ll ever share publicly because I believe it’s in best interest of character & peace of mind
But I finally feel ready to share that something so public & personal was hurtful
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After the experience I vowed that I would not tolerate certain behaviors or signs or treatment from men
I won’t tolerate:- being compared to other women or their bodies- being told I’m beautiful and amazing only after being told how much I’m not their type- someone always needing me emotionally but not being available for me- surface level conversations with limited depth unless prompted by me- cheating, lying on lying on lying, lustful eyes or behaviors- yelling and being told that it’s because of me that they want to act that way… that I make them crazy or want to yell for only expressing my feelings and needs- double standard expectations- empty words, promises, & apologies
To name a FEW
I went from being so happy to realizing none of it was real…. I fell for an idea & a representative. I forgive myself. I share this hoping to help you learn from my experience, for healing, & in hopes you’ll forgive & protect yourself too
Best advice I got was not to harden my heart because of this, my love is worth giving