Learning How To Overcome What Holds Us Back From Success

Hello!? This week I want to explore more awareness in our ways towards success and really what is holding us back from success. When we are venturing towards a new goal or opportunities we are often in a proverbial doorway.? In that threshold is all of our past,? the stressors of the present, and many opportunities to distract and avoid the potential future.? This is a part of how the brain works, given that anything that is new or different is defined as stress on the body, and stress is seen as a threat to react quickly to.? So our primitive brain is there with every stress we ever had trying to find relevance to bring it up to the present.? Let’s look at key ways we will hold ourselves back from moving through that doorway.

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?? Overcoming Self-Sabotage: Unlocking Your True Potential

One main way we allow our past to occupy our present is to self-sabotage.? We will get in our own way, distract, avoid, procrastinate to really put ourselves out on the line. We’ve all been there—moments when we know what we need to do to achieve our goals, yet somehow, we find ourselves standing in our own way. Whether it’s procrastination, negative self-talk, or fear of failure, self-sabotaging tendencies can prevent us from reaching our full potential.

But letting go of these behaviors is crucial for personal and professional growth. The first step is recognizing these patterns and understanding where they stem from. Often, self-sabotage is rooted in a fear of success or a deep-seated belief that we aren’t worthy of the achievements we desire. By bringing these unconscious behaviors to the forefront, we can begin to challenge and change them.

As professionals striving for success, it’s important to build awareness, practice self-compassion, and replace self-sabotaging habits with constructive ones. Seek out strategies that help you stay accountable, such as setting clear goals, breaking tasks into manageable steps, and cultivating a supportive network.

Remember, the journey to success is not always linear, and it’s okay to encounter setbacks. What matters is how we respond to these challenges and our commitment to moving forward. By letting go of self-sabotage, we free ourselves to fully embrace opportunities and create the success we truly deserve.

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I am excited to announce I am starting up a new section of Success Groups on August 26th.? These groups are 9 weeks long (3 sections totaling 27 weeks) and focus on the important aspects of success and wellness. ?We use evidenced based principles to teach how to live a happier and healthier life.? August 26th section will be focused on A Life Worth Living: Key Components to Building Success.? We will be exploring and building what our definition of success is, how to set visions and goals for success, understanding our value and building wellness through living a happier and healthier life.

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Exploring the Benefits:? In 1 week change the way you think and view your life. In 6 weeks feel better and have healthy habits that lead towards success. In 20 weeks Live towards a happier and healthier life, have clear routines and positive perceptions that create happiness and wellness.

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Overcoming Self-Sabotage with the Pomodoro Technique: A Path to Productivity and Success

Are you struggling with self-sabotage in your daily tasks? The Pomodoro Technique might be the game-changer you need. By breaking work into focused intervals (usually 25 minutes) followed by short breaks, this method can help you overcome procrastination, enhance productivity, and build momentum toward your goals. It can be hard to actively engage in knowing we are self-sabotaging or trusting we have the value to not. Self-sabotage often stems from overwhelm and the fear of failure. The Pomodoro Technique addresses this by making tasks more manageable and promoting a mindset of progress over perfection. Each "Pomodoro" becomes a step forward, reducing the temptation to delay or avoid work.

Implementing this technique can transform how you approach your work, helping you stay focused, motivated, and less prone to distractions. It’s not just about getting things done—it's about building a habit of consistency and resilience that prevents self-sabotage from taking root.

Ready to try it? Set your timer, and let's start turning those tasks into accomplishments!

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Understanding Our Sense of Value

Having a sense of worth and internal value is difficult, especially when we avoid, we are implicitly devaluing ourselves each time.

Sense of Value: Our sense of value refers to the inherent worth we attribute to ourselves. It encompasses our beliefs about our own worthiness, capabilities, and significance in various areas of life, including relationships, work, and personal endeavors. This internal sense of value influences how we treat ourselves, how we allow others to treat us, and the decisions we make.

Implicit Devaluation and Adding Value

Implicit Devaluation:

• Negative Self-Talk: We often unconsciously devalue ourselves through negative self-talk, where we criticize or doubt our abilities and worth.
• Comparisons: Comparing ourselves to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy, where we believe we fall short in areas such as appearance, success, or relationships.
• Seeking External Validation: When we rely on others’ approval to feel worthy, we may devalue our intrinsic value and become dependent on external validation to feel good about ourselves.
• Self-Sabotage: Engaging in behaviors that undermine our success or well-being, such as procrastination or unhealthy habits, can be a form of implicit devaluation.

Adding Value:

• Positive Affirmations: Regularly practicing positive affirmations can help reinforce a positive self-image and affirm our worth.
• Setting Boundaries: Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships is a way of valuing ourselves and our needs.
• Self-Compassion: Being kind to ourselves, especially during difficult times, helps build a strong sense of self-worth.
• Pursuing Personal Growth: Engaging in activities that promote growth, learning, and self-improvement adds to our sense of value by showing that we are worthy of investment.

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Finding Value in the Day-to-Day: A Path to Success

In the pursuit of success, it's easy to get caught up in the grand goals, overlooking the small, everyday moments that contribute to our overall sense of achievement and fulfillment. However, finding value in the day-to-day is not only essential for maintaining motivation but also for building a sustainable and meaningful life that aligns with our true values and beliefs.

The Importance of Daily Value

Success is often perceived as a distant destination—an accumulation of wealth, accolades, or status. While these external markers can be gratifying, they are not the sole determinants of a successful life. True success is deeply rooted in our sense of value and the way we perceive and engage with our daily experiences. When we find value in the day-to-day, we cultivate a mindset that recognizes the significance of every action, interaction, and moment, no matter how small.

By appreciating the present and finding meaning in routine activities, we build a strong foundation for long-term success. This approach shifts our focus from merely chasing goals to enjoying the journey, fostering a sense of contentment and well-being that enhances our overall quality of life.

Linking Daily Value to Our Sense of Self-Worth

Our sense of value is closely tied to our self-worth. When we undervalue the small wins, the everyday acts of kindness, or the simple pleasures of life, we inadvertently diminish our self-esteem. Conversely, recognizing and celebrating these moments helps reinforce our self-worth, contributing to a healthier self-concept and greater resilience in the face of challenges.

For instance, taking the time to appreciate a job well done at work, savoring a quiet moment with a loved one, or even completing a personal project can all add to our sense of value. These experiences remind us that success isn't just about the big milestones but also about the consistent effort and engagement we put into our daily lives.

Success Through Mindful Living

One way to find value in the day-to-day is through mindfulness—a practice that encourages us to stay present and fully engage with our current experiences. Mindfulness helps us to slow down, observe our thoughts and feelings without judgment, and appreciate the richness of the present moment. This practice can be particularly beneficial in reducing stress and enhancing our ability to find joy in simple, everyday activities.

When we approach life with mindfulness, we are better equipped to notice and value the small successes that occur throughout the day. Whether it's overcoming a minor obstacle, making progress on a long-term goal, or simply enjoying a peaceful moment, mindfulness allows us to see the value in these experiences and recognize their contribution to our overall success.

Building Success Through Daily Habits

Another key aspect of finding value in the day-to-day is the development of positive daily habits. Habits are the building blocks of success; they shape our behaviors, influence our mindset, and ultimately determine our outcomes. By establishing routines that align with our values and goals, we can create a structure that supports ongoing personal and professional growth.

For example, setting aside time each day for reflection, planning, and self-care can help us stay focused on our goals while also maintaining our well-being. Regularly practicing gratitude can shift our perspective, helping us to see the value in our everyday experiences and maintain a positive outlook on life.

Conclusion: The Value of the Journey

Success is not just about reaching a final destination; it's about finding value in every step of the journey. By appreciating the day-to-day moments, we reinforce our sense of self-worth, stay connected to our core values, and build a more fulfilling and sustainable path to success. Whether through mindfulness, positive habits, or simply taking the time to recognize the small wins, finding value in the present is essential for living a life that is truly worth living.

Incorporating these principles into your daily life can transform your approach to success, making it less about external validation and more about living in alignment with your true self. Ultimately, it's the day-to-day experiences that shape our journey, and by finding value in them, we can achieve a deeper and more meaningful sense of success. Finding an accountability partner can help you maintain a connection to the day-to-day value.

Empowering Wellness Success Groups: Your Path to Holistic Well-Being and Success

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At Empowering Wellness, we believe that true success is rooted in holistic well-being. Our Wellness Success Groups offer a transformative journey through a one-year engagement designed to help you achieve a balanced, fulfilling life. These groups are structured into two 26-week programs, hosted on a virtual video platform with access to a private Facebook group for continuous support and community engagement.

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Our group services are conducted in a multi-person format, offering a supportive environment where participants can share their stories, challenges, and triumphs. Each group, limited to 20 participants, is partially open, meaning that you can join at the beginning of each 9-week section. The group model is rooted in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) principles, providing both coaching and therapeutic support. This approach allows participants to explore their mental, physical, financial, and social health, with a focus on holistic living.

What You'll Gain

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The Success Coaching Group is designed to guide you through every aspect of well-living. You’ll delve into topics such as Mental Health, Physical Health, Financial Health, Relationships, and Work-Life Balance. Our program is structured to help you achieve personal and professional insights on how to overcome your most overwhelming barriers, ensuring that you not only set but also achieve your life goals.

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Join Us on the Journey to Success

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Our Wellness Success Groups are not just about achieving goals; they are about building a foundation for a life worth living. Whether you're seeking personal growth, professional development, or a balance between the two, this program will equip you with the tools and insights you need to succeed.

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By joining our group, you will connect with like-minded individuals who are also on a journey to improve their lives. The sense of community and shared experience will provide the validation and support needed to overcome life’s biggest challenges.

Why Choose Empowering Wellness?

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??? Expert Guidance: Our coaches bring extensive experience in success coaching, executive coaching, and mental health.

??? Holistic Approach: We focus on all aspects of well-being, ensuring that you live a happier, healthier life.

??? Proven Techniques: Utilizing DBT and CBT principles, our program is designed to foster long-term success.

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Take the first step towards transforming your life. Join our 27-Week Wellness Success Group today and embark on a journey of growth, balance, and lasting success.

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Empower yourself with the knowledge, support, and community you need to succeed. Your journey to wellness and success begins here. ??

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This has been a great week, we have learned a lot about what is holding us back in our pursuits of success. Remember, awareness is not just one ah-ha moment.? It is taking time to practice daily a mindful present and understanding that our brain has an automatic switch to lean towards avoidance when feeling stressed, we want to try to stay as present as we can to override this switch and make meaningful steps towards a more purposeful action.? I would love to hear from you. Comment below questions or thoughts related to self-sabotaging behaviors and ways you have overcome it.?? Also, please connect with me on other social media pages.?

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