Learn Through Play. Your Life is Supposed To Be Fun Every Day

Don’t we say youth is wasted on the young? Don’t we see plastic surgery options to stay looking young skyrocket with tips on living longer, feeling better, and to stop aging? Kids who played hopscotch on carefully crafted pavement puzzles cared if you touched the line. Kids may or may not care if you get hurt playing. Kids want to stay and play. Kids don’t drink to have fun, don’t smoke weed for fun, don’t have your kind of stress, poor things. Well, I’m here to tell you that everything you were told about growing up is wrong. You don’t have time for fun, you plan fun and life around that fun. Allow me.

When you’re immersed in playing a game of chess, hide and seek, coloring, hiking, biking, or building a fort, you are focused. You are focused on the fun of life. You are focused on the present moment. You are focused on the environment fully in your senses, to breathe in deeply, calm the body, listen to what is around you, watch the sunset and sometimes your guidance comes in the quiet of your peace. If you will just take the party outside, bundle up? in the winter and learn to walk in nature without being cold. When you play, you stimulate the vagus nerve and you smile and laugh and you catch your breath. When you play, you are at one with the frequency or source energy or God or yourself. There is a magnificence to creating your reality in that as you ask, you receive. Just start asking from the seat of a go cart or skee ball machine in the movie theater.

Your brain needs forward-thinking motion to heal or expand. From birth, your brain grows in proportion to your social interactions. Let me make this clear. If you don’t intervene in kids’ arguments during a game (or only when they need to be good of course), they will learn to negotiate, communicate, make mistakes, forgive, and love. They will scream and cry and if you say let’s stop the game, they magically POOF into angelic blossoms of childlike innocence. That’s what play means to them. They want it more than anything. You define it and judge it and hold it so far away from yourself. Why? You don’t need to punish the child in you anymore. You are now the parent. Show yourself adventure to learn and grow a different way than you've been trying.

As an adult, you must create your reality and no matter where you are or what happened to you, you may never be rid of your trauma. But, fun is one way to immerse yourself in the community like visiting small towns in your own state or traveling to theme parks, following performers or animal migrations, painting, photography, and all connected to nature, where life is perfectly managed and you remain protected in your state of bliss and engagement with all that is in your purview and away from the need to control, manipulate, or change a thing.

Make no mistake, sometimes the present moment is grief and pain and you must feel all of your feelings and release them. You must attend to your trauma and pain. You cry and get it out and walk right back into the room, ready to go. It’s all part of the process. You can ask yourself:

What would the most fun thing to do today that is possible? Or, what is keeping you from it? Make it work with your schedule, obviously. Ask yourself why you fight aging so hard? What are you afraid of? What are you missing out on? What have you not accomplished in the name of self-love and joy in the present moment, even by yourself? Consider these as journal prompts and make a list of fun things to do. Start small. Play a game, even solitaire. Fun is a state of mind.

Neglected as a child, I was shoved off to the homes of cousins, neighbors, and family friends. My mom struggled herself and worked odd hours. My dad picked up a car full of my friends to experience parks, ice and roller skating, bowling, and more until I reached maturity and then he, too, left me to create my world. I still reached for hope. I still reached for fun. I didn’t grow up with the expectation that life was not supposed to be fun. My life was a distraction and my memories of pain were eaten in those distractions. Now, I deal with the damage through play. I hunger for laughter and dance and concerts. I didn’t have direction so I made my own straight to joy. Now, I use tapping and bilateral stimulation, create when I am in pain, walk through it, and find gratitude for the privilege of having one more day to play.

Chase the feeling of already having all that you want in life right now.

When I raised my kids, we partied at my house until the passing of my daughter at the age of 22. We never drank or allowed smoke and I am proud of that. I taught my summer school or after school kids to have fun from a young age. The house was always full. We had our last visit with our bunch to a theme park a few months before she passed, and a circus demonstration a few months before that. We held Christmas parties and every year we traveled to the old Florida with at least one kid who met the criteria of never having waded into? the ocean (for our hungry little eyes to behold) and a kid who couldn’t afford to go. As I age and see the serious grown ups get sick and try like hell to stop the aging process, I know I was right.?

Blasting the radio, dancing in the rain, walking with fun music, self-expression and laughter on your terms must be part of your life. The law of attraction dictates that like is manifested unto which like is drawn. Your thoughts match your reality. That means that you create your life in each moment and in this moment and the next. You choose to make peace with the negative you already created and maybe you can slow that momentum and believe that things for you can get better. You have to start somewhere and I can’t think of a better time to harness the full potential of the inner you that is bursting forward with love for you and so excited to see you create and so patient as you learn that it’s okay. It’s ALL okay to get out and play.?