LeadOURship

Addressing gender inequality is crucial, and International Women's Day provides a great opportunity to reflect on ways to reduce it. For years, women have been leading in roles as caregivers and caretakers. It's high time to recognize their need to receive care as well. Starting today, let's take small steps towards change. For instance, consider making morning tea or helping with household chores before and after work, acknowledging that both partners are equally tired despite their different responsibilities. In a very recent incident, I had gone visiting & the lady of the house came back from office after we had reached. I just got up to welcome her & offered to get some water & tea. She was tired &? had a backache yet social norms forced her to be a good hostess. This kind of stuff can be draining & needs load sharing. To me also this is an important need that I feel all of us could reciprocate as help/ care on the ground is needed as a default setting.

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The COVID-19 pandemic has taught us the importance of self-dependency and co-existence at home. Having a supportive spouse or life partner is essential for our well-being and happiness. Live & let live is the key here as both have different needs, styles & satisfaction points. Recently, I met a couple who both lost their jobs in the same week. They were initially shocked and unsure of what to do. The woman bravely initiated a conversation about their situation, while the man remained strong outwardly. As a career coach and mental happiness advisor, I was moved by their story.

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Over coffee, I introduced them to the concept of the "ATM for Happiness":

A – Acceptance versus Expectations

T – Taking Charge versus Blaming

M – Making the most of what you have versus thinking you have nothing

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I encouraged them to accept their current situation, take proactive steps like updating their CV and reaching out to their network, and focus on making the most of their time together. Despite feeling dejected, the woman took the lead, planning activities and maintaining a positive outlook. She got into action& created positive energy for both. Being the Master of Mind is what was most needed which she did take charge of. Together, they decided to support each other through the job search process, understanding that this phase would pass.

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I'm reflecting on this experience, and I'd like you to share your own stories of overcoming challenges and supporting each other. And yes, while my one and only wife in the life (Sushma) might object when I claim credit for her work & efforts as ours, I acknowledge her significant contributions with a smile. She has after all leadOURship.

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Naveen Khajanchi ( EMC – Insead ) is an Executive Coach who also runs a Leadership Search Co.

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