Leadership Lessons from Teaching a Child to Sell

By Randall Doizaki???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? CEO, Doizaki on Leadership LLC

One of the most profound leadership lessons does not come from a boardroom, a management seminar, or even years of corporate experience. It can come from something as simple as teaching a child to sell. Whether it is Girl Scout cookies, Boy Scout popcorn, or a fundraiser for their school, guiding a child through the selling process offers powerful leadership insights. I have seen these lessons come to life both as a leader and as a father.

In fact, whenever my own child or relatives approached me with an order form for a fundraiser, I did not just place an order. I would ask them to call me with their sales pitch. The idea was to let them practice their sales skills, build confidence, and learn how to communicate persuasively. This was not just about selling cookies or candy—it was about teaching them to rely on their abilities. I did the same with team members who would bring in their child’s order forms. I would ask them to have their children make the call instead. Through these experiences, I have realized that these everyday moments are rich with leadership lessons—ones that we can apply in professional settings to inspire, guide, and grow others.

Building Confidence

When children stand at someone’s door with their product, the experience is not just about making a sale—it is about believing in their ability to persuade and engage others. I remember when my child first started selling for fundraisers, she was nervous, unsure of what to say, and worried about rejection. By encouraging them to make the calls themselves, I was giving them the opportunity to take control of the situation, building confidence in the process.

Great leaders do the same. They empower their teams to take ownership of tasks, projects, and decisions. When people are given the responsibility to lead, they begin to believe in their capabilities. Leadership is about creating environments where individuals can step up and take charge, much like I did with my children when I asked them to sell to me directly. Confidence does not come from hand-holding; it comes from experience, trial, and a willingness to take risks.

Reflection: How do you build confidence within your team or organization? Do you create opportunities for your team members to take ownership of their projects?

Crafting a Compelling Story

Selling is not just about the product—it is about the story behind it. I always emphasized this to my own child when she was preparing for a fundraiser. (not only for school or scouts, but also when raising funds for Special Olympics, Colorado) It was not enough to simply tell people they were selling popcorn or candy; they needed to explain why. Whether it was raising money for a camping trip or funding school activities, I taught all of them 9my own child and those around me) to connect their story to the cause. Once they understood the purpose behind their selling, they found it easier to engage with others and get buy-in.

In leadership, storytelling is essential. A leader’s ability to communicate a compelling vision that connects people to a larger purpose is critical for motivating teams. Just as my child learned to explain why she was selling; leaders must craft a narrative that helps their teams see beyond the tasks at hand and connect with the “why” behind their work. When people understand the larger story, they are more inspired to contribute meaningfully.

Reflection: What is the story behind your leadership? How do you communicate the bigger picture to your team, and how does that motivate them to align with your goals?

Learning to Handle Rejection

Rejection is a tough pill to swallow, especially for kids. The first “no” can be crushing. I remember my child coming back after her first rejections, feeling defeated. But instead of letting her give up, I reframed the experience. I reminded her that rejection was not personal and that every “no” brought them one step closer to a “yes.” Teaching her to see rejection as a learning experience helped them develop resilience.

We even took this a little farther when looking at the objections given by others. The outcome was to create a reply to support others, specifically saying “I appreciate your time and consideration, but would you consider donating a box or two for our veterans” and continued by having it set up with the VA volunteers to hand them out at the VA hospital. This helped develop creative problem solving as well as the confidence to try selling to others.

This is one of the most critical lessons in leadership. Failure is inevitable, but leaders who teach their teams to see setbacks as growth opportunities foster a culture of resilience. Turning rejection into a chance to improve separates effective teams from those that crumble under pressure. Just as I helped my child recover from early rejection, great leaders coach their teams through setbacks, helping them refine their approach and try again.

Reflection: How do you handle rejection, both personally and within your organization? What systems do you have in place to turn failure into an opportunity for growth?

The Importance of Clear Communication

As my child learned quickly, the way she presented herself— her tone, body language, and enthusiasm—could make or break the sales. If she lacked confidence or failed to communicate clearly, potential customers were less likely to buy from her. On the flip side, when she was clear, upbeat, and engaging, she saw better results.

Leaders face the same challenge. Communication is central to leadership. Whether you are pitching an idea, negotiating with stakeholders, or giving feedback, the clarity and effectiveness of your communication can dramatically impact the outcome. Words have power, and leaders must know how to use them to inspire, persuade, and motivate their teams.

Reflection: How effective are your communication skills as a leader? Do you pay attention to the tone and clarity of your messages, and how do they influence those around you?

Celebrating Small Wins

One of the lessons I enjoyed teaching my child was the importance of celebrating small victories. Every sale, no matter how small, was an accomplishment. It was not just about reaching the final goal—it was about recognizing the effort along the way. We would celebrate each sale with a high-five, a cheer, or sometimes even a little reward. This acknowledgment kept her spirits high and gave her the motivation to keep going.

In leadership, it is easy to focus on the big wins, but it is essential to celebrate the smaller milestones as well. Recognizing progress keeps morale high and builds momentum toward larger successes. Leaders who take the time to celebrate the small wins encourage their teams to stay engaged and motivated, creating a positive, forward-moving culture.

Reflection: Do you celebrate the small wins in your team? How do you acknowledge progress and keep momentum going within your organization?

Financial Responsibility and Persistence

When my child earned money from her sales, she was introduced to financial literacy—how to earn, manage, and spend wisely. I taught her that part of leadership is understanding resources and managing them responsibly. Equipping your team with financial understanding helps them make more informed decisions and contributes to the organization’s overall health.

Equally important is persistence. Selling as a child often requires repeated attempts and ongoing efforts to reach the final goal. This persistence teaches them that success does not come instantly. In leadership, persistence is a key trait. The road to success is rarely linear, and setbacks are inevitable. However, great leaders model persistence by staying focused on their vision, even when challenges arise. They help their teams push through difficult times with motivation and resolve.

Reflection: How do you instill financial responsibility and persistence in your leadership practice? Do you provide your team with the tools and knowledge they need to manage resources effectively, and do you lead by example in staying persistent through challenges?

Conclusion

At the end of the day, teaching a child to sell is about so much more than the transaction itself. It is about cultivating confidence, crafting compelling stories, navigating rejection, communicating clearly, celebrating progress, managing resources, and staying persistent. These are the very same qualities that define great leadership. By empowering children—or team members—to rely on their own skills, we lay the foundation for their success in both life and leadership.

In leadership, it is often these small, everyday moments—like helping a child make their first sale—that teach us the most about leading with authenticity and purpose. Whether it is encouraging a child to make a sales call or guiding a team through a challenging project, the principles remain the same. By teaching others to believe in themselves, communicate effectively, and persist through challenges, we not only create stronger teams but also help shape the leaders of tomorrow.

Call to Action:

Take a moment to reflect on your leadership journey. What lessons have you learned from unexpected, everyday experiences? How have these small moments shaped your approach to leadership? Share your thoughts in the comments, and let’s discuss how everyday experiences can offer the most profound insights into leadership.

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