Leaders Must Extend Trust First

Trust is essential for any healthy relationship. Warren Buffet once likened trust to the air we breathe. “When it is present,” he said, “nobody really notices. But when it’s absent, everybody notices.”

In a working relationship, it’s up to you as a leader to make the first move to extend trust. This often comes as a surprise to many leaders, who assume they are automatically trusted by others because of their position or title. In fact, the opposite may be true. Because you have more position power, people may be wary of you. That’s why it’s so important that leaders extend trust first.

What It Looks Like to Extend Trust to Your People

One of my favorite stories about extending trust to your people comes from Horst Schultze, one of the founders of the Ritz-Carlton Hotels. After extensive training, Horst’s employees were given a $2,000 discretionary fund that they could use to solve a problem without checking with anyone. Now that’s extending trust!

One day, a businessman who was staying at one of the Ritz-Carlton properties in Atlanta had to fly to Hawaii, because the next day at 1:00 p.m. he was making a major speech to his international company. He was a little disorganized as he was leaving. On his way to the airport, he discovered that he’d left behind his laptop computer, which contained all the PowerPoints he needed for his presentation. He tried to change his flights, but he couldn’t. So he called the Ritz-Carlton and said, “This is the room? I? was? in,? and? this? is? where? my? computer? was.? Have Housekeeping get it and overnight it to me. They have to guarantee delivery by ten tomorrow morning, because I need it for my one o’clock speech.”

The next day Horst was wandering around the hotel, as he often did. When he got to Housekeeping he said, “Where’s Mary?” Her coworkers said, “She’s in Hawaii.” He said, “Hawaii? What’s she doing there?”

He was told, “A guest left his computer in his room that he needed for a speech today at one o’clock—and Mary doesn’t trust overnight carrier services.” Now you might think that Mary went for a vacation, but she came back on the next plane. And what do you think was waiting for her? A letter of commendation from Horst and high fives around the hotel.

Use Discretion, Then Take a Risk

I don’t mean to suggest that leaders should blindly trust everyone. That would be foolish. Leaders need to assess an individual’s trustworthiness before they extend trust. For example, Mary, the Ritz-Carlton employee, was trustworthy because she had completed her training and orientation and was known to be reliable.

Think of a risky situation you are facing where you may be hesitant to trust someone.

• What about the person or situation gives you confidence to extend trust?
• What gives you cause for concern?
• How you can extend trust while also addressing your areas of concern?

The next step is to take the risk to extend trust. You don’t need trust if there’s nothing at risk. That’s called certainty, a sure thing, a guarantee. But if there is risk—if there is a chance you might get burned extending your faith in someone else—that’s when you need to extend trust.

Trust doesn’t happen by accident. For trust to develop in a relationship, one party has to make the decision to extend trust in the hope it will be reciprocated. Ernest Hemingway summed this up simply yet eloquently when he said, “The way to make people trustworthy is to trust them.” In other words, while you can use discretion, you won’t really know whether you can trust someone until you make the first move.

At some point you, as a leader, must take a risk by extending trust and turning over responsibility to your followers. First, be certain they are clear on the goal. Make sure they have the right resources, skills, and training to do a good job—and then let them do it.

By extending trust first, you demonstrate respect and create goodwill. Soon your people will begin emulating your behavior by extending trust and respect to others. In a workplace where trust is the norm, people collaborate more, produce better results, and have more fun.

To learn more about building trust and other powerful leadership practices, pick up a copy of my new book with trust expert Randy Conley, The Simple Truths of Leadership Playbook . And please join us for a free webinar, Simple Truths of Leadership: From Intention to Action on Wednesday, February 21, 7:00 AM PST. Register now at https://event.on24.com/wcc/r/4444232/962C05294BC6C39A0C1D43B595A0D7AB .